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Ryan8383
Feb 6, 2012, 11:05 AM
I've been seeing this woman now 7mnths. Her and I are still married but going through separate divorces. Her and I both have kids me(1) her (3 all separate dads) Love,affection, respect, communication, and passion were all great. So we moved in. It started with her feeling favoritism from me to my kid but not to hers. My ex constantly butts her head in and gave her an earfull about me. Some true some false. She has been lied to,cheated on(got pregnant from a guy who was in another relationship) humiliated, and degrated. I myself have been all the same but never got anyone pregnant. He tends to hold my past against me to the fullest. The choices I've made in the past I've been accountable for. I don't hold her for any of hers. Nor bring them up. I'm scared to lose her, I truly believe she was meant for me and I for her. Not sure if her abbandonment lack of trust etc is not allowing the walls to come down and pushing me away is where she is comfortable. Or if my fear of failing twice is hurting us or maybe its dependency issues and fear of being alone. The pregnancy hormones are flying and its impossible to decipher what is real truth in hatred type feelings, or the hormones. Every time I try to bring up the question of our relationship it ends messy. Phoning the police and threats of being kicked out often occur. I love her and her children whole heartedly. Help. I will offer anymore info if u ask. Quite long I know but I want this to work and she will sometimes agree.
Ryan8383
Feb 6, 2012, 11:06 AM
I've been seeing this woman now 7mnths. Her and I are still married but going through separate divorces. Her and I both have kids me(1) her (3 all separate dads) Love,affection, respect, communication, and passion were all great. So we moved in. It started with her feeling favoritism from me to my kid but not to hers. My ex constantly butts her head in and gave her an earfull about me. Some true some false. She has been lied to,cheated on(got pregnant from a guy who was in another relationship) humiliated, and degrated. I myself have been all the same but never got anyone pregnant. He tends to hold my past against me to the fullest. The choices I've made in the past I've been accountable for. I don't hold her for any of hers. Nor bring them up. I'm scared to lose her, I truly believe she was meant for me and I for her. Not sure if her abbandonment lack of trust etc is not allowing the walls to come down and pushing me away is where she is comfortable. Or if my fear of failing twice is hurting us or maybe its dependency issues and fear of being alone. The pregnancy hormones are flying and its impossible to decipher what is real truth in hatred type feelings, or the hormones. Every time I try to bring up the question of our relationship it ends messy. Phoning the police and threats of being kicked out often occur. I love her and her children whole heartedly. Help. I will offer anymore info if u ask. Quite long I know but I want this to work and she will sometimes agree.
Fr_Chuck
Feb 6, 2012, 11:14 AM
It obviosly is not working