courtneyannie
Feb 5, 2012, 05:33 AM
My Boyfriend and I are in our early twenties and we have lived together for the past couple years. We moved in together after about 8 months of dating. Right now we are living at his parents house and attending a local college together. We both have jobs and we are both very busy. Last week end I noticed him acting differently around me. He was at work (Walmart) and he wanted me to come help him pick out a straighter and about 5 different types of hair care products. I thought it was a bit odd. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to make him feel bad about it. There is nothing wrong with a guy that wants to do his hair. The following day, right when he got back from his shift at work he told me he was going to his friend Ron's house to study. He was there for 6 hours.
A couple days later I asked how the exam went that they studied for and how Ron did. He told me that Ron's name is Ronnie and is a girl not a guy. Why did he refer to her as a guy a few days ago? Yesterday he called off worked because he had a migraine and then after lunch he went over to Ronnie's from about noon to nine at night. Ronnie has her own apartment. When he came home he smelled like her apartment. It was very difficult for me to be near him. What kind of woman is okay with her man smelling like another woman. Right when he got back he gave me a hug and was very nice to me but all I could say was, "what is that smell." I feel bad for saying that but it was just so overpowering. He is now really upset with me because he doesn't want to be "punished" every time he spends time with a friend.
Is it okay for a guy to spend an entire day with a girl in her apartment?
There where a couple things that I did leave out.When he left for Ronnies yesterday a couple condoms from our condom supplies were gone. Ronnie does have a child and last semester my boyfriend had a single mom friend that he hung out with but not as much as this one. When even he texts ronnie he does it in the bathroom or in another room. Also my boyfriend has cheated on me before. Not so much physically but emotionally. When I was gone for a weekend I came home and found out that he spooned a drunk girl in my bed. His excuse? He denied it until I told him I read about it in his phone. He was sorry and did try to make it up to me but he also told me that he was proud of himself that nothing else happened.
Should I assume the worst? Should I worry that he spends 5-9hours at a time with her at her apartment? They make dinner together or he makes it for them, it really bothers me because that is what we use to do together. He only goes to her house once a week but when he does go its for 5-9hours. Is it wrong of me to be upset about him spending all day with her in her apartment? Do I need to back off and not complain about it? How can I deal with this?
A couple days later I asked how the exam went that they studied for and how Ron did. He told me that Ron's name is Ronnie and is a girl not a guy. Why did he refer to her as a guy a few days ago? Yesterday he called off worked because he had a migraine and then after lunch he went over to Ronnie's from about noon to nine at night. Ronnie has her own apartment. When he came home he smelled like her apartment. It was very difficult for me to be near him. What kind of woman is okay with her man smelling like another woman. Right when he got back he gave me a hug and was very nice to me but all I could say was, "what is that smell." I feel bad for saying that but it was just so overpowering. He is now really upset with me because he doesn't want to be "punished" every time he spends time with a friend.
Is it okay for a guy to spend an entire day with a girl in her apartment?
There where a couple things that I did leave out.When he left for Ronnies yesterday a couple condoms from our condom supplies were gone. Ronnie does have a child and last semester my boyfriend had a single mom friend that he hung out with but not as much as this one. When even he texts ronnie he does it in the bathroom or in another room. Also my boyfriend has cheated on me before. Not so much physically but emotionally. When I was gone for a weekend I came home and found out that he spooned a drunk girl in my bed. His excuse? He denied it until I told him I read about it in his phone. He was sorry and did try to make it up to me but he also told me that he was proud of himself that nothing else happened.
Should I assume the worst? Should I worry that he spends 5-9hours at a time with her at her apartment? They make dinner together or he makes it for them, it really bothers me because that is what we use to do together. He only goes to her house once a week but when he does go its for 5-9hours. Is it wrong of me to be upset about him spending all day with her in her apartment? Do I need to back off and not complain about it? How can I deal with this?