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Jinx16
Feb 4, 2012, 04:32 AM
Me and my boyfriend entered this relationship nearly 7 months ago and it happened too quickly. But I'm in love with him and he was in love with me as well, but a week ago he said he's losing feelings. When he kisses me he says he can still feel something but he isn't sure if he wants to/ if he can work things out between us. We've been on a break for the past week but I'm going crazy. He's a very good guy and I am his first proper relationship. My therapist said he thinks he might have Aspergers because of some of his behavior. I want to be with him and I want to help him figure things out. Any suggestions of how I can help him? Any help would be much appreciated

talaniman
Feb 4, 2012, 04:39 PM
I know you are in love, and want to help, but without more education on your part, a lot more, then you may be doing more harm than good and it's a better plan I think, at least for now to take him at his word, and respect his wishes, and let him do tis his way.

Sorry but its better for him than you. And I know it sucks to not be able to be of help to the one you love.

Schoolmarm97
Feb 13, 2012, 08:01 AM
I agree with talaniman. Your boyfriend is showing you the courtesy of telling you up front that he's not sure he wants to continue the relationship. You can't force him to do so, and you can't help him if he doesn't want your help. And on the chance that he does have it, Asperger's is something that requires a great deal of understanding and education to deal with.

Sometimes the notion that love can overcome a serious problem is noble and very romantic, but it may be a little misguided, particularly since the diagnosis of the problem is based on limited information. Let him have some time and see where this goes.