When I met my partner of 3 years I fell head over heels. I have a boy aged 6. And he's married with 2 children age 13 and 10. He was separated when we met. His wife had been having an affair. I jumped into something very naively I feel. I'm 29 this year, and although I have a beautiful boy I still want more children, and I told him this from day one. He also agreed but I asked him this week about future, and he's now told me he doesn't want anymore children.

I am lost what to do. I feel somewhat betrayed. I asked him why he just said he doesn't want to go back to the stress children bring which hurt more because it would be our baby and I wouldn't see it as stress.

All my life I have had expectations and getting married, having babies to someone, and planning that means the world to me. I feel torn and angry. I don't want him to come near me because I feel so hurt, and then I feel guilty for feeling that way. He's a good man, but I can't help feeling resentment towards his wife, as I feel she really did get the best of him.

I don't know what to do. I broken down yesterday, and told him how hurt I felt, and what would happen if I ever fell pregnant by mistake? I don't believe in abortion, and I would never do that purposely, but the thought of being scared to tell him upset me. I want someone to be over the moon if I fell pregnant, not unhappy. I am very lost at the moment.

I think such stress is premature at this point since he is still married, and not divorced yet so you will have more time to decide if one day you will get married. In the meantime, as you learn more, you will have more FACTS to decide if you both can make a good thing happen, or if he is worth the risk of marrying or not.

For now don't be hurt by one discussion of far away events that may, or may not happen, but do have a care to not get pregnant at this time. Uncertainty, and confusion are but a few of the many things you face with any partner that has a lot of baggage from his past. His issues are far from resolved, and when they are he may well think differently.

You have to understand that he cannot see the future you envision as long as he is stuck in the limbo of an unresolved failed marriage at this time. So don't get carried away by the disappointment of future hopes being in jeopardy by past failures. That premature, and unnecessary, at this time.

It seems like you are taking this relationship with different seriousness as he is. He is married, and for that reason he is off limits to you, you need to back off. Also, even if his wife had previously cheated, what makes you think he is going to leave her, you seem to understand the importance of children, it is possible that he is going to try to work things out for them. Also, he might have said he also wanted kids just to get with you, when he is married, he doesn't want to have another marriage, a fling maybe. Take care of yourself, take care of your son, and when the right guy comes a kid will come as well, don't push it on someone that already has to be responsible for so many other people.