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corysti
Jan 29, 2012, 04:26 PM
Me and my Ex started dating well over a year ago and we started good at first in fact I think she was perfect then her jealousy started to get to her. She would think I was cheating on her with every girl that I talked to including the ones I've known through high school. So basically her trust from me was really bad even though I never did do anything wrong to cause it. I would do things for her to show her my love but to her they were considered minor and finally she decided we should take a break and get our own places.

I will say we did move quickly and we moved together really fast. So I agreed and I was okay and once I see the single life again and how I missed the freedom I took advantage of it. I would hang out with friends and enjoy myself and I wouldn't text her or call her much. I finally started to miss her and when I tried to be part of her life she said she didn't love me anymore and that she wasn't going to be put on the back burner even though we agreed to give each other space to do other things.

I don't know how I can get her back what can I do... I'm completely miserable without her... I love her so much. There are times I will be completely happy and all of a sudden I would get so depressed and start to think about her.

Cat1864
Jan 29, 2012, 05:22 PM
It doesn't sound like you were really happy with her. I don't think you would be happy for long going back to the way things were and she doesn't seem to want a more trusting relationship where she isn't the center of attention.

She needs some time alone without someone in her life propping up her insecurities. She needs to learn to deal with them before she gets into another relationship with anyone including you.

You need to move on. Let her go and continue to live your own life. I know you care about her and it isn't a feeling that disappears. But it does fade. You may not believe it right now. Most people don't because they are holding on to memories and dreams of what they wanted the relationship to be. Look at the reality. Remember how things were instead of how you wanted them to be.

You are healing. In any healing process there will be some setbacks. Don't dwell on them. Go out and do something you wouldn't have been able to if you were still with her like visit your friends. Give yourself things to do for when you feel down. Working out, hobbies, friends, family, music, reading, etc. are various ways to change your thought process and give yourself a boost. It is part of being your own support system.

Good luck.

talaniman
Jan 29, 2012, 09:00 PM
Sorry guy, but she had to many issues for her to even want to try this again, and you have to accept her decision. Just go back to doing your thing and have fun being single.

mmresd
Jan 30, 2012, 07:34 PM
You don't... you move on the same way she has. Go NO contact. Go out, be with your friend, meet other people, date other people, focus on your body, on work, on school, keep yourself busy. You will forget her before you realize it, just let time pass by.