View Full Version : My Boyfriend won't let me touch his body, or see him naked?
MizzDd
Jan 28, 2012, 10:39 PM
My fiancé won't let me touch him anywhere on his body other than his forearms, face, and sometimes feet and legs. Anywhere else he doesn't like it and freaks out. Not even his chest or shoulders! He won't change in front of me, and goes into the bathroom Every time! Even have sex completely naked with me. Every time I try to touch him, or want to see his body he gets angry and always says it makes him feel uncomfortable, and he doesn't like it. I just do not understand why he is like this, and does the things he does. When I ask, why don't you like it, he constantly pushes me away, and says " it's just because I don't like it, it makes me feel uncomfortable, end of story...!" And the craziest thing of all, is he has an amazing body from what I can tell, my fiancé works out everyday, he's addicted to it... What should I do? I'm tired of the whole "It's me, Not you routine!..." in all reality if you love someone, you would want them to be close and touch you, Right?
J_9
Jan 29, 2012, 12:04 AM
He needs to get some counseling to get to the root of his issues. This is very common with people who have been sexually abused as children. I'm not saying that he has been abused, but this is a common symptom of abuse.
talaniman
Jan 29, 2012, 10:09 AM
There could be many reasons he is the way he is, but don't look for him to change but rather approach this as you just want to know why he is the way he is do you can better understand him, love, support, and respect him. Or else, knowing what you know, he probably will make a lousy long term partner for someone who wants to share right?
Maybe he doesn't know why he is the way he is an doesn't understand himself. This isn't a good example of honest communications whatever his reasons are.
easterngirl
Apr 10, 2012, 06:31 PM
I wish I had an answer, my boyfriend and I were very active sexually, touching felt good to him, he loved me touching him.. then suddenly last year our sexual relationship stopped.. completly! Our kisses are on the lips but no passion, I'm not allowed to touch him near his private regions, nor in any other spot that indicates a sexual interest in him, even telling him I think he is hot makes him feel uncomfortable. I wish I knew what happened, I miss the wonderful relationship we had, etc. good luck hope you figure it out .