We met in college August 2008 and liked each other instantly. We were from 2 different states so we remained friends with benefit ( which wasn't smart) I ended up falling hard for him and couldn't take seeing his face anymore without knowing if he loved me back (I texted him & asked and he'd just say we were friends and he had no feelings for me) so I left the school. I didn't see or talk to him until I went back for homecoming October 2011 and when I saw him he instantly gave me a hug. The feelings came rushing back then I noticed him constantly staring at me when I wasn't looking. When I tried to talk to him, he wouldn't look me in my eyes, he was showing out in front of me and trying to make me jealous. We kept ending up around each other and when I looked for him I caught him staring at me from a distance & he hid his face behind something. I want to know does he love me or has he loved me the whle time?

Unless he says otherwise, or you ask directly, take him at his word,


I texted him & asked and he'd just say we were friends and he had no feelings for me

Like you said, friends with benefits, and it gets complicated in the warm glow of lust doesn't it? Take out the benefits, and his words, and actions will tell you what's up.

He could be missing the benefits.
He has already told you where you stand in his life. Don't try and read anymore into it and do go back to where you were with him. I'd say leave him alone.

Okay kenedy247 let us start with the fact that you guys were friends(of 2 years) with benefits and then he said he DIDN'T love you after you asked him and said that you guys were just friends,AFTER he got laid.that is a sign that he for one was just looking forward to getting laid for sure because him knowing that you had feelings for this guy and would fall head over heals for him just sends him a message that you would do just about anything for this guy.secondly he was basically sending you mixed signals at the homecoming if he truly loved you and missed you he would have cared enough to sit you down and catch up on what he ahs missed and then asked if he could keep in ttouch... but he didn't he kept his distance from you and hid his face,AND he tried to make you jealous so basically he doesn't LOVE you he just wats you to fall into the whole that you were in, in 2008. So my advice... get rid of the dude and don't waste yourself and knowledge on the jerkbag he is:)