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fathima1
Jan 27, 2012, 05:30 AM
I am a muslim I have been forced by my parents to marry my cousin and had I refused I would have been disowned by my parents I am now married to my cousin but the marriage doesn't seem to work I don't have feelings for him even though he is a nice guy but everything he does seems to annoy me I do not want the marriage to end as it would lead to me being disowned which I believe as a muslim I shouldn't allow... I need advices

Fr_Chuck
Jan 27, 2012, 06:58 AM
So you are married, they are hard enough and you can learn to love him but you have to change your feelings and not try to find things wrong. Arrange marriage can work well, if both parties accept that they are married, will stay married and work hard at it.

hebaattia
Jan 28, 2012, 07:32 AM
El salam alukiom
This issue is not only in muslims families my dear . Look in islam you could've reminded them with what your prophet mohamed says about marriage and how its not allright to force wemen
The issue here is not about forcing only , its about your feelings towars your family which I can tell full with blame and turture !
Imagine if they realized later there mistakes don't u think then you will feel toward your hasband with little of care because now your no longer forced to stay with him and you got the choice to accept or refuse
Allah said with the meaning and his prophet did too that if you don't like him you can ask for devorce but if you staied with him and treating him as Allah told us to he and maybe your future child will be the reason of making you own a place in heaven .
What was done can't be back but you still hold the future love comes by time open your eyes remove the anger and hate inside you because he didn't force you its not his fault either
He's acting nice toward you and he loves u
Ur the first woman he got the chance to talk to and smile in front of her give him and yourself a chance to live in peace , don't break his or your heart because of a family who holded the traditions and never wanted to change their mindsets
With my love and support
Hiba attia

talaniman
Jan 28, 2012, 02:45 PM
Not much of a choice, marriage or be disowned, but since you agreed, then you must at least be as nice toward him, as he is toward you. Maybe in time, a bond can be built, but not if you are not determined to at least try.

He seems to try, feelings or not.

joypulv
Jan 29, 2012, 04:18 AM
It may feel like you were forced into this marriage, but you did have the other choice, and you chose this one. He doesn't hit you or say terrible things or deprive you of your family or going places, he just annoys you. Try to find a little humor in what he does, and figure out ways to let him know without being angry. Spend time with close friends to complain to, just for comfort (without overdoing it of course). You had to have known that there wasn't going to be romance and being perfect for each other when you agreed to this.