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vectra619
Jan 26, 2012, 03:31 PM
Anything I can do if ex wife gets pregnant, I had a vasectomy because of problems. Can I stop her?

JudyKayTee
Jan 26, 2012, 03:34 PM
Why are you concerned about what your ex-wife is doing?

Why do you care if she's someone else's baby if you are divorced?

Fr_Chuck
Jan 26, 2012, 03:36 PM
No, she may go have sex with someone else, and she may get pregnant, and you have no right to require an abortion.

You may divorce her if she is cheating on you.

vectra619
Jan 26, 2012, 03:48 PM
Even though I had it done because of problem pregnancy's

Cat1864
Jan 26, 2012, 04:08 PM
If she is your ex-wife, why would her getting pregnant affect you?

If you had a vasectomy because she had problem pregnancies then it was a choice you made as a couple. It was a decision that should have included the health of your marriage and if there was a chance (even the smallest possibility) of things not working out and the marriage dissolving.

After you divorced, her choices are now all her own as are yours. You have no say in her life and she has none in yours.

You cannot punish her for a choice that was ultimately yours. She may have been a part of the decision but you are the one who went through the procedure.

If you are now regretting your choice, talk to your doctor about the possibility of having the vasectomy reversed.

JudyKayTee
Jan 26, 2012, 05:26 PM
She's youe EX wife - why is this your concern? I care nothing about what my EX husband does.

I doubt she put a gun to your head and performed the vascetomy without your knowledge. Maybe I don't understand the circumstances.

Maybe she didn't want to have your child. The "new" person is a different story.

I realize you gave me a "dislike" because you didn't "like" my answer. If you want people to agree with you, ask your friends and family for their suggestions.

For that matter, why did you post this under marriage. Seems clear to me that it's a LEGAL question. Is English your first language?

Your marriage - according to you - is over.

talaniman
Jan 28, 2012, 03:14 PM
Sorry guy, but you cannot control your ex, nor should you. Frankly its none of your business.

See a doctor about reversing the procedure if that's what you are PO'd about, and if she had pregnancy issue with you, then she has them with others a well right? Stop talking to her, as there is a good reason you are no longer married.

Divorce, and no children means you are no longer available for her BS!!

JudyKayTee
Jan 29, 2012, 03:01 PM
This gets even stranger - apparently OP has remarried. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriage/husband-texts-female-friend-dont-know-how-deal-630871.html

- and he has kids!

Something is being left out about relationship with "ex."

Cat1864
Jan 29, 2012, 03:36 PM
In vectra's defense, he doesn't say that they did have children. Only that there problem pregnancies.

I am curious about whether the other post is about the same wife or new wife. If it is a new wife, it may shed some light on why he is upset if his ex is having children with a new person and he feels he can't.

But same advice still applies.