Hello my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. He has lied to me a lot and every time he gets my trust back, I find out another lie, or I see messages that he has sent to other women he went on his my space. He didn't know that I was looking, and he had a messages on his my space talking to one of his friends about another women, saying that she can be with him, and the date, on the messages. Was 2 day before our one year of being together, and how hot she is.

It crushed me and I have seen one on his phone talking about another woman's breast job that she had done, asking her if she plays with them, and telling her they look nice. My body isn't good looking at all. I have flab and stretch marks from having 3 kids. When we are in bed doing adult things he closes his eyes, or he don't look at me, and every time I say something about it, he always tells me that I won't let him look at me, but I do. And when I say something bad about the way I look, he tells me I'm hot, and there isn't nothing wrong with me. But he thinks that Jessica Alba is the hottest. But when I ask him he always tells me no, and that he was just picking.

So I have been talking to him about me having surgery on my problem areas, but he always says no, you are fine the way you are. If he thinks that then why don't he tell me without me having to talk about myself. And about a year ago his ex brought there kids to the house. He wanted me to leave, but I didn't. I just stayed in the room. He told me that she would be leaving, but she ended up staying the night. Yes, I can understand that. She had a little baby with her, but its her fault for her driving all day. He said that he let her stay because of the baby.

I just don't know what to do. What I think I should do is just not say nothing about the way I look, and one day get new clothes and dress sexy and see if he says anything. I don't know, someone please help me.

There is no excuse for lies for Any reason and if he is your man and committed to you he would not dream about talking and messaging other women like that if you were doing it would he like it and how would he feel. You need to regin yourself confidence and believe in yourself and you will make the right decision about your future if you are not happy you need to change that xx

This is easy, he keeps lying to you since you let him. He knows you will just keep being there, and that he can get by with it. So why should he stop, he has nothing to lose in his mind.

So my question is, why do you keep forgiving and why do you let him keep coming back and why have you not dumped him.

He has lied, he is lying and he will continue to lie. You let it happen.

So stop wondering about him, and wonder why you let it happen.

Seriously? You know he's lying but you stick around? What is that all about? Fr_Chuck has it right. Figure out why you're still there so you don't make the same mistake again, but in the meantime get out of that relationship. It's not healthy for you.

Break free. You need to love yourself. He doesn't love you. Love comes with respect and u deserve better. The longer u waste away with him the deeper u dig yourself in the hole. Climb out and live. The 'one ' for you is probably out there wondering y he's lonely too. You deserve to b happy. Don't let yourself take that from you. Break free.

He lies because he can - there are no consequences to him if he's caught.

I have never understood why anyone would let a lying cheating piece of crap treat them like they are a piece of crap. The only problem areas you should focus on fixing is the choice in partners, NOT your body.

Get rid of that, and you might feel better after a while. For sure he won't lie to you, maybe another fool who believes him, but NOT you. Sorry, I know you don't want to hear this but you are letting this lying loser drag you down.

But I think you know that don't you?