I would like to move out of my mother's house because I am on probation and I'm in her custody. There are specific rules that I am supposed to abide by while living with her. Living with my mother does not help me, and I am afraid to violate while I am in her care. I want to move out with my boyfriend and see how things go? If we get married, would this help me be able to get away and be happy?

If you are in her custody, that means you have to be a "minor" and underage. So no if you get married, you will be married and under her custody. In fact, she may have to approve the marriage.

You are on probation, what criminal activity do you want to do that she won't let you do? What probation rule do you want to violate, to have fun that she will not let you do.

Probation means following the rules, what specific is the issue doing that.

I am not a minor. I am 24 years old, and am being treated like a child. My mother has constantly been threatening me over the whole thing. I am a recovering addict and have been clean now for 9 months. My boyfriend has been clean for over a yr. But she thinks that we will both relapse and being with him will end me back in jail. I don't want to participate in any criminal activity. I'm trying to finish the program and I feel like she is stopping me because of the area I live in, no license right now, and of course I'm not making money. If I move out and get out then I feel like I'd be forced to get my life on track

A parent can not have "custody" over you if you are a adult.
** unless you have been declared mentally unable to take care of yourself.

Either you misunderstood court order of probation, or your mother is lying to you. But unless there is some specific court order that you must live at that address. A person on probation is free to move anywhere within the state they live.

** if your boyfriend is on probation or on parole, or if he is a ex felon, probation may control who you can live with.

But talk to your probation officer personally, something is not sounding correct here from a legal side.

If I've missed 2 drops, do you think that the court will give me a slap on the wrist and continue my probation, or do you think I will have to do sentencing time. I just want to prepare myself, in case I see my probation officer and she says I have violated. Would writing a letter to the judge help with continuing my probation as long as I follow instructions? He gave me the worst of the worst and I would really like to complete this program, but it's hard to when my mother is telling me what to do at my age. This is like a trap that I am in and can't get out no matter what I do.

I think you need to call your PO and arrange a talk with them. You need to clear up any role your mom has, ( I really doubt she has any legal role)

I will bet you are completely free to move out anytime you want.

And yes normally women get many more chances than men get on probation, Also with over crowding, they will give many chances for programs before they revolk normally.