Here's the deal: I love my boyfriend and feel like crap when we fight. But lately he's becoming one of those guys who drink and go out every night and I hate that. I'm not jealous, I don't think he's going to cheat on me, I just can't stand those guys... You know, the party animals. I hate to hear his drunken stories and I get sick when he tells me about the hangovers he has... I mean, if he knew he was going to feel like crap the next day why did he get so drunk in the first place?

He says we are young and on summer holiday and thinks is natural. I think that to, but he just wasn't that kind of guy. I would never fall for that kind of guy! I don't want to be a controlling girlfriend either, but he is actually very controlling himself. He doesn't let me wear miniskirts and won't let me get a tattoo until he gets one himself. I used to think he was the one, that we were meant to be but last month I thought I was pregnant and really freak out because I realize maybe I didn't wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.

We been together for 6 years, and I don't want to get married, but is that enough reason to leave him when he didn't even ask me? And he is really sweet to me most of the times and I adore him too, I think... What should I do? Should I even do something? Because it doesn't seem fair to him for me to stick around with him just until "the one" appears. But I don't want to be alone... And I miss him when he's not around. Am I a bad person?

Have you ever told him what you've just told me? If not, then maybe you should. Your concerns are very justified, but if he knows nothing about your thoughts and feelings then you can't exactly expect anything to change. You care about him for a reason, so give him an honest chance. Conversely, he cares about you too, so he should give you an honest chance as well. It could be that time will work this problem out. In my youth I used to drink and get all torn up with my friends... until I got sick of being sick, so I cut it out!

The other thing is that if you're not sure if you want to spend your life with someone then you had better decide that BEFORE you do get pregnant. There are enough single parents in this world as it is. If I'm understanding you correctly, you don't want to control him, you want him to control himself. I appreciate the fact that you're not a control freak, but he needs to take you into consideration too. Don't get angry with him, and keep your emotions in check. Just lay the problem out before him and let him decide what to do about it. Keep your cool and present the facts. After you have done that you can both begin to work everything out. You will do just fine. Good luck.

If you are questioning the relationship then something is wrong. Especially after 6 years. Communication is key. I think over time people change. And you just miss him because you are used to him. That doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your happiness. And don't think about the comments people tend to say about 'don't waste 6 years, work things out ' I think nothing is a waste of time. You learned from the relationship and now need to move along before more damage is done. First talk to him about your concerns about the partying.if he's not into changing or getting help then why waste your time. Relationships are about commitment and work. You need to be happy. Your happiness should be first. When you're happy that's when you can take care of others.

You should let him go out get drunk and party while you do you and like they say let a dog roam he will always come back to his home he knows you're a good girl that respects herself so he won't be gone for long

How old are you both? 6 years is a long time, and no doubt that you both have changed as you have grown. I think your concerns are real, but I also think there are more changes coming.

Staying with someone to not be alone is human, wanting to leave when things are dicey is also human, so give a lot of thought to what you do about these changes, and words, and actions. Especially getting pregnant when you are so torn with what he does. Balance his young behavior with what he does for you, and get some coping strategies to get you through the tougher times.

Tell him you have no interest in his drunken exploits, but also realize, NOBODY is perfect.