My boyfriend smokes weed, I don't know what to do? Should I get shut of him? Is there anyway it can damage my health through kissing, sex, etc. it worries me the more I think about it?

If it bothers you and you are against it and talking about it with your boyfriend doesn't help then you need to decide if this is a deal breaker or not. For the facts on smoking weed just goolge as there is a lot of information out there. Besides stinking up the house and you or anyone in your house getting a contact buzz, you could be busted as it is illegal to posses marijuana.

my boyfriend smokes weed, i don't know what to do? should i get shut of him? is there anyway it can damage my health through kissing, sex, etc. it worries me the more i think about it?!
No it won't hurt u

Screw it girl try it you may like it.

Lol, no worries for you but his ball's and pee pee will become smaller if he smokes a lot and it just makes people very stupid..

And never smoke the stuff TRUST ME its fun for some time then it F's you up..

If he care's about himself and you enough he would stop and discontinue any friendship w/ those druggie's. 3 yrs ago.. My fiancé was into drinking and weed when we started dating. Although I didn't know at the time. When we wnet to a sleep over he had some alcohol and then went and smoked weed with his budds. He started acting VERY different. He didn't know me or what he was doing, he was completely out of it. I was soooo scared. I had never been around this. (Do u want to be in this situation?) Anyway, the next day we talked and we both chose to stop our habits. My cutting and his drugs and drinking. Smoking cigg's was going to continue--til about a year ago lol. I stop cutting... even though I really enjoyed it and still would. BUT you shouldn't be in that kind of relationship, he could try to get you to do it tooo. Do you want to pass out and have sex with some fat old guy? NO. Stop him before he does something stupid, if he loves you he will chose the right thing.

This is a blunt answer. But, it might be appreciated by some people.

People get murdered in the manufacturing and selling of illegal drugs. Why would anyone want to be involved in something that kills people in any fashion?

This is a blunt answer. But, it might be appreciated by some people.

People get murdered in the manufacturing and selling of illegal drugs. Why would anyone want to be involved in something that kills people in any fashion?
It's pot clough, I don't think they are selling pound's of pot no one is going to get hurt in this post,, but also I understand what your saying first hand...

Pot is a natural herb and can and does sooth the body. The only reason that it is illeagel is because it does grow wild and the government can't tax it. I have never heard of anybody getting killed over a joint. I'm sure it has happened but for me it takes the edge off the day and lets me relaxe. Oh and it makes me hungry.
I have tried just about everything to gain weight nothing worked till I got with Pot.
True it's not for everybody. But I have never went out and decided to turn looney because I was drinking and smokin. It made me want to macrome my butt into the couch after a big meal with the great refrigerator. SO I guess I would have to say You will have to make a choice.

The fact that its illegal and you could lose your job, home and family is good enough for me.

Yea, people who do pot in my eye's are losers. If you can't get a natural high off life, then SAD for you. If the law says don't do it there is a good reason. My fiancé knew this, he knew he'd lose me, he knew his parent's would be upset. But mostly he did it because he knew he wanted to be a healthy and good man. Three cheer's for him! Teen's need to stop being in the wrong crowd. That's how you start to slowly lose you life. I've been their and I know. I was just in my teen's and in HS. THANK GOD I'm not anymore! Weehoo for 21!

And NO I'm not drinking... but if I do, its not to get drunk like most people.

Hi, well I used to smoke weed a lot!! I mean all day everyday. I don't think its hard to stop at all actually. It really isn't when you have a good reason to stop. If you really are against him smoking and don't like it, then give him an ultimatum tell him you don't like that and you don't want him doing it. Otherwise he isn't going to stop. But just to let you know girl it does not hurt you in any way. If your around it and you breathe it in I guess its seccond hand but weed isn't like tobacco it doesn't have all those harmfull things in it. So don't worry about your health, just worry about his! :)

This is a blunt answer. But, it might be appreciated by some people.

People get murdered in the manufacturing and selling of illegal drugs. Why would anyone want to be involved in something that kills people in any fashion?
This is the main overall point to consider. You he's sweet and nice, maybe even more so when he's "high". The sad and serious reality is, what is he supporting socially and moreover, what is he agreeing to when he financing an underground, illegal and ultimately non life affirming behavior?paranoia, fear,protection through guns,pit bulls and fear based thugs who will threaten anyone and anything that interferes with their selfish "good times". His high is more important than your mutual, natural buzz.AKA mutual love. Be aware of society AND your own true needs.

I don't think that every person who does drugs sits and thinks about all the things it takes for them to even get those drugs. The people who may have been hurt or threatened. All they see is what's in front of them. I think its rude to look down upon them, because of doing drugs. Some people do it because they want to try something new. Some because they want to be cool. My fiancé used to do it, but because he wanted to try it. He didn't know about every little thing that happens in the background. So what? It's not a big deal to try things, but it is one, when you start to lose yourself and your personality. Just because someone has a problem with drugs doesn't make them bad, they could be a prisioner. Needing help to get away from it, or they just like it. Personaly I wouldn't do drugs, but if I did, id do it because I liked it and I sure wouldn't do it all the time. Just like drinking. Moderation and safey. Anyway to judge those who do drugs drink or smoke is rude, and offensive. If your without faults go ahead an judge, but your sure as heck not.

Just get a boyfriend that dosen't smoke pot.

Yo, raynefreak! Moderation in everything, does that mean EVERYTHING? Chocolate, a glass of wine, parachuting... are risky and stimulating, but do honestly believe that close to the edge, dangerous and illegal, immoral and socially devastating associations like financing underground drug culture{which,being illegal, constitutes heavily armed protectors with their supposed right for severe means to "safegaurd" their right to do what they feel] is moderate and O.K. Cool?WAKE UP AND SMELL THE FEAR The issue is not that pot is the most weakest of all the socially, behind the scenes "pastimes", the fact exists that it's illegal for a GOOD REASON.PLEASE THINK BEYOND THE BOX AND OF OTHERS WHO DON'T SHARE YOUR PARTY PERSPECTIVE.

It's not like I'm not thinking of others, but I'm not a conformist. I don't agree to agree. I think if someone does pot, it doesn't make him bad. Things happen behind the scenes. What about when you eat meat? Veal? Hamburger? What about the things people do to poor little seals in Canada? Stuff happens, not everyone is enlightened as to what. Doesn't make them bad. If someone isn't comfortable with a drugy or drunk then fine, but fact is, not everyone does it because of the wrong reasons. It's insulting to say that. My fiancé was not a druggie, was not bad. He stopped when he felt like it, and same is true with smoking. Ppl should really mind there own business in these issues most of the time. If god put it on the earth then its here for a reason. These are my personal thoughts, if you or anyone disagree I don't care. I know what is true and not true. So don't try to force your idea's on me, I disagree. You think only of the ''behind scence's''. That doesn't even matter. Think of that next time you eat meat. Or don't. W/e. Just don't freaking push your veiws on me or anyone on here, its rude.

Sorry rainfreak, I got over reactive with your response to Curioususers query. I failed to accept your overall point. You basically exspressed my ultimate concern [Quite eloquently and fair handed] My intention is not to look down on anyone who is learning through experimentation. It's not judgment I'm trying to [enforce?], yet it's the initial concern regarding accepting a behavior that is against the law regarding public, personal and sociological well being.[illegal drug use and all the danger one inadvertently agrees to by participating] It's not just like drinking,unlike like alcohol, pot is illegal [for now] for a good reason,until it's O.K.ed and regulated' it will continue to create unhealthy consequences. The phrase "moderation and safety" is what really set me off, it always comes across as though ANYTHING [behavior,actions,intention... ] is fine as long as one is participating in a casual, non descript way. Cause and effect is something anyone [everyone] can't ignore any longer.Obviously people don't things for the "wrong reasons" [unless you are Hitlerriffic!] my main point is cause and effect, what we do, think, feel,express and act [no matter how reasonable it feels to our limited experience] inevitably affects everyone.It,s OK to stand above,challenge and debate the current status quo. I feel it's not a good or bad, right or wrong issue, it's a cause and effect issue. Thanks for being true to your perspective, it means more than what my computer response tries to do.

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Originally Posted by Clough
This is a blunt answer. But, it might be appreciated by some people.

People get murdered in the manufacturing and selling of illegal drugs. Why would anyone want to be involved in something that kills people in any fashion?



this is the main overall point to consider. ya he's sweet and nice, maybe even more so when he's "high". the sad and serious reality is, what is he supporting socially and moreover, what is he agreeing to when he financing an underground, illegal and ultimately non life affirming behavior?paranoia, fear,protection through guns,pit bulls and fear based thugs who will threaten anyone and anything that interferes with their selfish "good times". his high is more important than your mutual, natural buzz.AKA mutual love. be aware of society AND your own true needs.

Seems like a lot of people don't take into consideraion where any kind of illegal drug came from in the first place and what goes on in the root system of the drug trade and the ramifications involved in that same trade.

Bingo!

Personally I think your reading too far into the problem. Ppl don't think about things behind the scene, if everyone did, then we'd be a paranoid world. We'd never get anything done in life.

This is a blunt answer. But, it might be appreciated by some people.

People get murdered in the manufacturing and selling of illegal drugs. Why would anyone want to be involved in something that kills people in any fashion?


Well what I have to say about that is... Weed doesn't kill anyone. People that manufacture it CHOOSE to! People that sell it CHOOSE too! No one makes them. Weed doesn't kill ANYONE... you would have to smoke the amount of your weight to die (140lbs... 140lbs of weed! ) You would pass out before that! The drug that is killing our nation iS CRACK... coke too but CRACK

If you want to worry about drugs and dealers then worry about the PEOPLE that DO it and SELL the ones that KILL people and the nation. You smoke coke and crack it WILL ruin your life and family! I know this first hand... from a close family member. Almost tore their whole family apart (kids and spouse)

PLEASE don't worry about weed UNLESS he doesn't go to work/school and/or his life and money revolves around it... otherwise just live it up with him or don't... that is your choice but as long as it is not hurting him let him make his! :)

Its your life and if you don't want weed in it that's your right.

I just think your over thinking it 38. If everyone worried about the how and what all the time we would be no where. That is a fact. I think you're a bit paranoid.

Nobody cares where those high priced gym shoes come from by Nike, Why should you care where the weed comes from.

Honestly, think about it though... a lot of things can happen in the process of bringing the masses drugs, alcohol, food and or etc.. . But some of the things happen, it's a ripple effect bound to happen. Just because someone buys something that someone either get's hurt or dies to bring to them, doesn't lable the buyer a bad person or a accompis. How do you know that someone didn't die or get killed to bring you your wife's ring that cost a lot of money? Does that mean we should all NOT buy jewels? Watch the movie Blood Diamond. It's a bit different, but for the porpose of my argument I'm using it. If you know for a fact a crime happened in order to bring you anything you bought, doesn't matter weither drugs, food, jewels whatever, maybe someone you knew directly then OF COURSE that hits very close to home and may tug at your heart to no longer buy that item. But what if it's a crime you no nothing of? Does that make you bad for buying jewels, a car, food or whatever? NO. Sometime's things happen, we can't worry about every little thing that happens. ''Oh my I wonder did that guy die to bring me this?'' ''What if he got shot?'' It's called your paranoid. Like I said if we worried about the why's and how's and who's all the darn time, we would be sitting at home affriad to come out. Now I know our topic is drugs, but I'm trying to make a point. Sure, I don't like drugs. BUT I think that it shouldn't be illiagal. It's a natural plant on this earth and it should be up to the person to choose to do it or not to. Just like alcohol and cigs. Why do we have so many problems? Because of the regulation and laws against such things. Makes people want it, because they can't have it. Look at Ireland, Germany, and any other country that allows drinking to lower ages as well as other things. They don't have half the problems in that area then we do. If ''Joe'' lives in Germany he can drink at age 16ish. But perhaps because of thefact that he can and tried it but didn't like it he doesn't care and doesn't drink. But if ''Tim in US is 16 and wants to drink just to try it, but he can't because the law is 21, its more likely that he will either steal, or have a older person buy for him. It's also more likely that he will continue down this road. Hat's off to the one who walks away from it saying its not that great. Have you ever thought about the guy in Africa, who has a family, but they took him away from them just to find some stupid diamonds? They forced his son to kill inocent people. All to bring us jewels...

Its interesting that anytime weed is in a conversation, there is always a debate. Working with drug addicts, I have seen some people with marijuana problems and unable to quit, and lose their family over it, lose their job over it, go to jail cuase they can't quit, etc, among many other problems... but some people are okay with casual use and has never caused a problem. I don't think it is okay to tell someone that there is nothing wrong with it... we need to listen to the question, and if someone is not okay with their partner using, that is fair! ANd if pot is no big deal, he should be able to quit! Haha
I just think it is interesting how much of a debate this country has on marijuana use.

WOW lol by much more important. I mean much more important to worry about. Hard drugs like these are what rips families apart and kills people. I mean have any of you ever had a family member or someone you know do crack or coke? Or have you seen someone on it? If not then you need to before you judge how bad things are.

Oh, I agree that some harder drugs cause a llot of problems. I have seem some crazy things. BUt the talk is about marijuana... and ANY problem is too much. If it is on a scale from 1-10, some people only change if the problem is at a 10! But that is crisis mode! Problems can be changed safely and easily at a 2 or 3 if it is admitted.
So I agree that there are other issues out there, but I am only focusing on marijuana, as that is what this thread is about.

To a person who is at high risk he will be addicted anyway, where others are just social with their use. I think it's the person, not the drugs and it doesn't matter what the drug is. Drugs and how they are used, is for the addict only a symptom of a deeper problem, that needs to be fixed. Marijuana to some is addictive and life changing. To them a drug is a drug, and they are not social with it.

In the end, people do it because the law says not to. Other country's don't have such strict laws, therefore it is not a problem. Personally, I feel if someone wants to do drugs or etc that is there personal choice. If they don't have the will power to stop, then that is there own problem and they clearly don't deserve the family they have anymore since they can't quit to better themselves and respect their family. Now for those who can't quit solo but know they need to, and ask for help that's different. Cheer's to them. This country worries about too many things that aren't the BIGGEST problem today. What we should be worring with is the prez and our government. Stop them from sending inocent men and women to fight a pointless war. Killing whole cities with inocents. We should be concerned with the homeless and abused. Wake up people, there are more problems, more inportant ones. Just because someone you know does drugs and you don't want them to, its called get over that and focus on doing something for the world you live in. Otherwise your exsistance is pointless. -I'm not going to be a product of society, I'm going to make it a product of me.

Other country's don't have such strict laws, therefore it is not a problem.
Other countries have as many addicts as we do, they are more successful hiding it than we are, and the jails are not full from users. I agree with the rest of your post though.

I wasn't trying to imply that other countries have less druggies. Or problems. What I'm trying to get across is that some other countries have less strict laws. It therefore is an accurate asumption that in those countries they would have a bit less problems with the abuse of it. However in America we have stricter laws, making people more likely to ''try'' it out. And or to cause problems. I'm sure the stuides will show the same phanomina. It makes sense on so many lvl's. If I'm told to not do something, I start wondering why, then perhaps trying it to the point of hinding what I'm doing. However, look at the man who can and man who can't. The one care's so much about getting what he wants and not getting caught. The other, doesn't even care, and maybe even loses interest in what he's doing.

I don't know if I believe that theory fully. I don't think most people do drugs just because it is illegal. I see your point, but I don't know if I buy that as majority of the people. If that were the case, then other people do things illegally just because it is illegal... because if that were the case, what else do people do just for the sake of it being illegal?

Everyone who does drugs do it to feel good, and socialize, and have fun. Back in the day as now, we didn't care if it was illegal, so what, just don't get caught. We can look at alcohol, illegal but they did it anyway. Got so bad that they legalized it. I see MJ going the same way. Eventually.

When Pot is legal I will defend anyone's right to use it.
I may disapprove ( as I disapprove of alcohol) but it will be legal.
However when anything becomes a problem ( legal or illegal) then I must encourage this person to get help for the problem.

By 38yearsold

somebody cares where it came from and what the ripple effect does to them, us and people we don't even take the consideration to fully empathize the after effects that goes around and ultimately comes around in a non life affirming result.

Unfortunately sir, there is so much money behind the drug industry, and has been for centuries that the ripple effect is vastly outwieghed by the profits, as with most things in our society. Not saying its right, but that's the way it is. If you have ideas to change it, then be ready to make some rich powerful people very mad. Gosh I can remember being that idealistic, till reality hits you in the face.

Yes it can hurt you, depending on who he smokes with. You actually can catch viral infections from smoking behind another person, and if he catches that from someone he can pass it on by you.

>>>MENINGITIS

What is Bacterial Meningitis and how is it spread?

Inflammation of the lining of the brain and spine caused by a bacterial infection. It is spread by direct contact with saliva and droplets from nose and mouth such as kissing, drinking from a glass the infected person has used, coughing, sneezing, and sharing cigarettes.

Yes it can hurt you, depending on who he smokes with. You actually can catch viral infections from smoking behind another person, and if he catches that from someone he can pass it on by you. Hello:

That's about the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. I guess kissing is dangerous too.

excon

PS> Here's my 2 cents. I have a prescription for medical marijuana. I smoke it all the time. I smoke the BEST pot in the world. I know where it comes from. I know who grows it.

However, if it makes you feel better, because its medicine, I promise not to enjoy it (wink).

How much do they give you for medicinal purposes? Are you taking more than prescribed? I didn't think they give you so much that you would be high all the time! Hahaha :) just curious! I don't know too much about that topic.

But everything still applies. People take pain killers prescribed, and that doesn't mean it is healthy for them... some become addicted... even when they take it as prescribed... tolerance is a terrible thing! :(

Anyway, tell me more about the medicinal pot please? Not to take away from the thread, it just might help us.

Hello Yelo: (I DO like saying that)

They don't GIVE me any. The law says that I may have a 60 day supply in my possession, but how I get it is up to me. I think a 60 day supply is around 138 pounds, don't you?

Am I taking more than prescribed?? Possibly!

excon

Wow, that seems crazy to me... some people who are prescribed it don't go and get it themselves...
And so yeah you are probably taking more... haha :)

Thanks for the info!

There is a informative video out by Penn (from Penn & Teller) (I think its Penn, it's the big guy not the one that doesn't talk). It has a lot of information in it and Penn is pro pot apparently. It it mostly one sided in that video but it gives a LOT of information your will NEVER hear about from the government (Why it is illegal, what it does to you etc.. ). He talks about it in detail and its good to watch to learn. Btw, Penn doesn't smoke pot and never has yet still has his view point on it and I don't either (use to though). My friends smoke pot everyday, constantly, and even were dealers at a time. I do not in anyway support this though; But the only adverse affect that I have seen is slowed reaction while on the drug.

Quote... my boyfriend smokes weed, I don't know what to do? Should I get shut of him? Is there anyway it can damage my health through kissing, sex, etc. it worries me the more I think about it? End quote

With all the issues being brought up and with the pros and cons about smoking, please do not forget the real answer.
It is against the law and while people who smoke pot are not all losers.. there is a potential for addiction here. Also you do not need the hassle of being arrested if you are with this B.F. when he is arrested.
Find some one new and don't waste your life trying to solve this problem. Life is to short.

There is an abundance of misinformation about marijuana, and some of it has found its way to this page, but the bottomline is, for the majority of those who smoke weed, it is a lifestyle choice.

Anyone dating someone who smokes, should understand this because few "potheads" will change. Most will rather go through great lengths to hide their consumption, than to actually quit.

You have to decide whether it is a deal breaker for you, as mentioned by Talaniman.


But as for the health risks in dating someone who smokes... well, truth be told, your grocery bill increasing is about the only "real" danger you face. ;-)


Research it so you know the truth for yourself. Only then can you make an informed decision.

Hello Yelo: (I DO like saying that)

They don't GIVE me any. The law says that I may have a 60 day supply in my possession, but how I get it is up to me. I think a 60 day supply is around 138 pounds, don't you?

Am I taking more than prescribed??? Possibly!

excon


I called a pharmacy and asked about this. I will admit that I know it can be used medically, but isn't.
This pharmacist told me that in the U.S.A. it is rarely prescribed and then just for end stage cancer. The doctor obtains the medication ( pot) and gives it to the patient. It also comes in a pill form.
I am not trying to pick an augment but I am trying to understand.
Are you saying that the doctor prescribes "pot" to you but the amount that you need is up to you and how often you need it? How does the law allow you to have a certain amount that you decide is right for you? All other prescriptions have the strength and dosage on the label.
I am guessing you are buying from the street or growing it?
None of this makes sense to me. Please clarify this for me if you have time. I am clearly confused.

Hello again, isabelle:

There's an abundance of information about the "Washington State Medical Marijuana Law" online. There's too much to re-print here. Just Google the words enclosed in the quotation marks.

You'll find out. When it comes to the law, I don't kid around.

excon

The Medical Marijuana Act addresses cultivation only for one's own personal consumption. There is no concrete standard for numbers of plants, but there is a sixty-day supply limit written into the new law. If arrested, a patient may need to show that they do not possess more than is necessary for their personal sixty-day supply.


Back in the day a sixty day supply would have been a couple of pound (I had some sick friends) so I'm just curious as to what your dosage is??

Hello again, Tal:

As usual, you're right on with your law. As noted, the law doesn't set out a particular amount, and my doctor doesn't set any either.

If arrested, I certainly can show that I don't possess more than I can consume in 60 days - even if I have to hurry on day 59...

excon

Thanks excon

I want to answer your question but first off, pot can cause health issues. Just like smoking cigerettes or drinking alcohol. To the extent can be argued for years. There acutually was a recent study proving that the THC can actually help with lung cancer. Not to say you should start smoking to prevent this. But... my point that I'm trying to make is weed is not any worse than drinking alcohol. Just like alcohol, it can be consumed by mature responsible people. Millions of people smoke socially and lead productive and successful lives. Others, just as with alcohol can not handle it and their lives are destoyed. Now, if your boyfriend refuses to give up weed and you do not approve than really what choice do you have? You first have to respect and love yourself. Think hard about this. What will make you happy and allow you to live the kind of life that you feel you deserve to live. If weed is not part of that than do not waste anymore of your time. I truly hope that this helps. Good Luck

my boyfriend smokes weed, i don't know what to do? should i get shut of him? is there anyway it can damage my health through kissing, sex, etc. it worries me the more i think about it?!
There are diseases that you can catch from a person who shares weed as in blunts.. therefore if he smokes with someone he can catch a disease from them and transfer it to you

THEREFORE IF HE SMOKES WITH SOMEONE HE CAN CATCH A DISEASE FROM THEM AND TRANSFER IT TO YOUHello again, Miss:

This was ridiculous when you first said it, and it's even more ridiculous now.

You can catch a disease if you drink a soda after someone too. I guess we should outlaw soda.

excon

I don't know all the facts, but weed isn't really that bad for you, it's like alcohol except it hurts your lungs. I doubt you'll get anything from kissing, but I'd dump this loser while you can, stoners are not people you want to date, believe me I know. The way I see it, stoners are people who can't deal with reality so they screw themselves up

This is really the deal, even boozers tend to avoid TOTAL reality, yet stoners seem to feel that getting high on pot and whatever else, at any time of day, is OK 'cause they're not stumbling and stinkin' of alcohol,sensing that they won't get noticed [caught], that it's something that can be gotten away with. Aware and serious people who understand and care of others safety can recognize this half arsed behavior and hate to let this kind of behavior slide.We all like to have our own vices, yet we are not an island, everything we do affects everyone else. Lets look ahead and think of others as well of our own limited joy!:)

WOW lol by much more important. I mean much more important to worry about. Hard drugs like these are what rips families apart and kills people. I mean have any of you ever had a family member or someone you know do crack or coke? Or have you seen someone on it? If not then you need to before you judge how bad things are.
Addiction is addiction. Some people are addicted to shopping or sex or gambling, and their addiction rips their lives apart. I do agree that crack and meth have highly addictive qualities and those addictions seem so much harsher, but trust me, if somebody is addicted to pot they are living in a hell as well. But to touch on the initial question being asked-- I don't think you need to worry about your health being at risk (aside from the second hand smoke). I think you need to figure out where you stand morally on the subject of pot smoking. If it's something you don't want in your life, then you probably have a difficult decision to make. I also like to add this-- people sometimes put limits on what they will do and won't do. If you at first say you will never smoke pot and you cross that line and start smoking pot. What's the next line you will cross? Coke? Meth? IV dug use? I've learned that drug use is just a symptom of addiction and experimenting can be so very dangerous because you may be an addict that hasn't even used drugs yet. Hope you figure out what's important to you and know that you deserve to have what is important to you. Good luck.