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nargisss
Jan 17, 2012, 10:04 AM
Should I do marriage against my parents?
M 21 years old my boyfriend is 27 years old,but he stays in bhopal (madhya pradesh),n he is having huge black colour birthmark on his face as it cover his half face,alongwith that he is my far away relative,so since childhood only we both are in love n deep relationship,our relationship is of 10years old,n I stay in mumbai,but my parents are against,as they think that m beautiful so they feel proud of me n they expect me to choose n marry with handsome boy who stay close to my city or house,as they don't want me to stay far,as the boy I loved staying in bhopal,so they regret it,have an issue with boy face,I.e birthmark,n long distance n m getting confused what to do ,but now they accept our relationship n say yes to our marriage but I feel that they are not haappy from heart as everday they make me feel that m doing wrong n will realised later n everyday they used to torture me by saying that I should not maary that boy as he is having huge birthmark that is unique n for this reason our kids will also have this birthmark as it is genetic,m very much depressed

Silver Lining
Jan 23, 2012, 06:55 AM
Hi Nargisss,,
Your parents gave birth to u, took care of u, loved you unconditionally, so they expect you to marry the guy they ask you to. But you can't ruin your whole life based on this. You are in love right? Convince them. Tell them you will not marry anyone and that u'l stay at home, doing nothing, if they do not allow you to marry your guy. As for looks, you are beautiful enough for both, right? Ask your parent if they would not love you, had you got the birth mark? They say love is blind, it's true,, no matter how ugly a child can be, parents will always love their child. Tell them that,, try to convince them into letting you marry him. Tell them you love that guy for who he is and not for how he looks and that you don't care how your children will look.

nanuchini
Feb 6, 2012, 08:38 PM
By lase you can remove that black color mark. That is small problem. Do it first and than marry with permission. Give all the positive thing to your parents like your BF's education what he want to do and how go gater and goal setting etc. If education is a problem birthmark is a samll thing but und=educated son in law is big problem.