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hailiee768
Jan 16, 2012, 08:57 PM
I'm 15 and a freshmen and I like a senior, who recently turned 18.

He has a girlfriend and I wouldn't ever try to get between that, especially since they've been dating for about a year and a half, but the reason I'm mentioning this at all is that he doesn't seem happy in the relationship. When my friend and I inquired about how long they've been dating, he made comments about how long it's been since they started dating, and maybe that's why he acts so old all the time. When anyone mentions her at all he gets kind of down and changes the subject. He used to be REALLY dorky and unattractive, so sometimes I wonder if maybe they were once on the same level (she's not attractive and is kind of weird.. ) and then he got more attractive and less weird, but he's still as insecure as he was then, so he doesn't think he could leave her. She saw him when he was invisible, you know?

I see him a lot, and we have two classes together, plus lunch everyday. He's really flirty, so I might be confused by his motive, but it seems like he likes me. He's asked me to get coffee and stuff like that, and when I cancelled on him once he was really disappointed.

One time, I was slightly drunk (lecture me and I'll punch you) and we were talking on the phone at about 3 a.m. On a school night (so he stayed up even though he didn't have any reason to) and I said, "I have something to tell you!" (that I liked him) "What is it, darling?" "I can't tell you because in the morning I'll wish I didn't tell you,"
"What if I tell you something after you tell me something? It'll be okay, then, I promise," At this point in the conversation, I changed the subject because I realized (even while drunk) it'd be bad to tell him I like him. Later on he said, "Hey, what was the thing you wanted to tell me that you'd regret? I promise not to hold it against you..." and he wouldn't drop it, so he clearly wanted to know. To me it kind of seems like he thinks I like him, wanted me to say it, so he could tell me he likes me, you know?

Wow, that was a lot of typing... But anyway, I can't tell if he likes me, or if I'm reading too much into stupid things... I mean, he has a girlfriend, but he doesn't really seem to like her anymore, and he makes a point to talk to me and he's really flirty... But, I just don't know what to do.

I don't want to be "that girl" that broke up this cute senior couple. I mean, it's not like he's super popular.. He's not such a popular senior at all. He has friends and stuff, but he's more an under the radar kind of guy. I don't think he plays any sports or anything. He's still really cute (at least I think haha.)

Is me liking him completely hapless? If so, is it because he has a girlfriend or because he's three years older than me? Or is it reasonable to like him, despite his relationship status and the age difference?

(If it matters, both my parents know I like him, and they know how old he is, and they wouldn't care. My dad's met him a few times and they both would approve if he and I were involved. My family's pretty open about stuff like that.)

batgurl066
Jan 17, 2012, 11:43 AM
If he is in a relationship most people would say back off but I think that you guys are cute! So go for it just make sure he KNOWS KNOWS that you are really into him. And make sure he picks either you or her . By the way its good your parnets don't care but if they did the law is you can nly press charges on him if you people had sex . I went though all this haha .

Danielle.
Feb 11, 2012, 12:33 PM
I've been seeing this guy for about half a year now and he turns 18 next week, while I'm a freshman. I've never talked to anyone my age. So I think I understand. I say that you should tell him about how you feel but do not be that girl. Just tell him how you feel about him and then let it pass by. Don't try to break anyone up. That's what little kids do when they don't get what they want. It'll look bad.

ScottGem
Feb 11, 2012, 12:41 PM
First, the lecture. The fact that you are even drinking alcohol at all at your age is a big red flag. You need to reexamine your priorities. And don't even presume to tell us how we. An respond to your posts.

Second, you keep saying you don't want to come between him and his girlfriend. Then you tell us all the things you are doing to come between them. Having anything but casual contact at school with him is wrong. And should be broken off immediately.