View Full Version : No motivation. I must reach my goals. Help.
daniwood17
Jan 16, 2012, 07:33 PM
I'll just go right into it. I'm a 17 year old female and latley I've been feeling like nothing is going for me in life. I don't have a job, I don't have boyfriend, I don't get good grades and I really want to lose some weight. All those things are goals I've been trying to accomplish for a while but I have no motivation to do them. I tell myself that tomorrow I will finally achieve those goals but I never do. All I want to do is lay in my bed and watch movies. I don't even want to see my friends anymore. I have no desire to do anything at all. That's really scary because I'm going to be 18 soon and I really need to know what I'm going to do in life. Its hard when you have no motivation because you don't even care. And I don't care about the future but I need to. It feels like everyone around me is much happier than I am. Its hard to face it sometimes and I become extremely jealous of my friends. Is this a disorder? Or do I need professional help?
awesomagic
Jan 16, 2012, 07:49 PM
It's not a disorder and you don't need professional help. What I think you need is some perspective. Instead of trying to do all of those things together, just do them one at a time. Pick the easiest task first and work on it everyday. Before long your goal will be met and you can move on to the next task and so on. It's like solving a jigsaw puzzle - each piece is a building block upon the others.
Don't be lazy. I don't mean that in a negative sense, but you can't sit around and just wish for things to be different. Not going to happen. You've got to turn the TV off, get up, and go do it. If you're not willing to do that, then you can't complain about the way things are. You have the power to change yourself and your circumstances. You can accomplish anything you want. But you have to do the work. You have to put forth the effort. So get up and get busy. You have work to do...
DrJ
Jan 16, 2012, 08:59 PM
This makes me think of something I heard when I was younger... not sure who originally said it.
This uses the word "God" but if you are not religious, don't let it deter you from the message...
I asked for strength… and God gave me difficulties to make me strong.
I asked for wisdom… and God gave me problems to solve.
I asked for prosperity… and God gave me a brain and energy to work.
I asked for courage… and God gave me danger to overcome.
I asked for love… and God gave me troubled people to help.
I asked for favors… and God gave me opportunities.
I received nothing I wanted, but I received everything I needed.
ttaayylloorr18
Jan 27, 2012, 05:32 PM
I am 18 and I have felt this way a few times. You need to look at the bright side of things and take control of your own life. You can achieve great things. Maybe talk to your mom or dad about the situation