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ripsey
Jan 16, 2012, 10:45 AM
I met a married older couple a while back who was intrested in bringing another female into their relationship(not just for sex) they had no kids (wife was unable to concieve)they wanted a family . So we got together (all three of us) we made it official. We decieded that I would remain living in my house because I have two kids from a previous relationship and I wanted to keep things discret and stablized for the kids sake. A few years went by everything was great. They began talking about us having a child together . I had to be the one to carry the baby since the wife could not conceive due to tubal litigation. When I became pregnant with our child, we decieded discussing the baby's future and living arrangements. I told them that the baby will live in my house and they will see the baby everyday and the baby will live with them on the weekends. They disagreed with the living arrangements , I think their mission was to take my baby from me . So since I disagreed they ask me for an abortion. I also disagreed . Our relationship ended due to the whole situation. My baby is now 7 months pregnant they have not seen her or helped me financially with my baby since she been born. Now I am seeking child support and full custody of my daughter. When I go for child support will they combine both of their income to deciede how much my baby will get or will they hold the husband or wife responsible and should I get a lawyer for this situation
kcomissiong
Jan 16, 2012, 10:54 AM
The wife would not be responsible for child support payments. The support amount will be based on the father's income, which in usually plugged into a formula with yours. (Many websites have calculators available, but you didn't list where you are located. ) You need to establish legal paternity if you have not done so already. They will likely get visitation if they ask for it during the custody hearing. You can do this yourself, but I would suggest having a lawyer. If they retain an attorney, you need to get one as well.
Fr_Chuck
Jan 16, 2012, 11:43 AM
Only the babies father will be held liable for child support, so it will only be his income. You will hire an attorney, file for custody. They may ask for joint custody. And will most likely get at least visitation of the child ( they can do that anyway even if you don't file for support)
ScottGem
Jan 16, 2012, 12:58 PM
How were you impregnated? Was any surrogacy contract drawn up?
Yes, this situation is not generally covered by the law so you NEED an attorney.
JudyKayTee
Jan 16, 2012, 01:36 PM
Why are you opening up this can of worms - support I understand. Sole custody I do not understand. You HAVE sole custody now. The father has no rights unless/until he goes to Court to get his rights enforced.
Support varies by State - if it's a State where FAMILY income is considered the wife's income is added in. The feeling is if the father lived alone and had $100 a month electric bills he would pay that $100. If his wife works her income goes toward the household expenses, reducing that $100 bill by her contribution.
Do we know where you are?
I have no idea why the couple walked away BUT if they decide THEY want custody I can see you will have a lot of explaining to do and none of you will come out of this looking good - or like responsible adults. It sounds to me like they couldn't adopt for some reason and so you came into the picture. It can't be money because they appear to have supported you and your other children. The State is not going to be thrilled with this arrangement.