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boonop
Jan 15, 2012, 07:34 AM
Why doesn't a man feel like that its his responsibility to his mate to make sure she is OK? Not just mentally or, physically, but financially? But you love me??

How can I stop getting mad at a boyfriend that doesn't help me financially.

J_9
Jan 15, 2012, 07:36 AM
Okay, you are really going to have to give us more info into your relationship here. Not all men feel or act this way.



Why is it you think a boyfriend should help you financially? That's what husbands do, not boyfriends.

talaniman
Jan 15, 2012, 11:44 AM
QUOTE by boonop;
Why doesn't a man feel like that its his responsibility to his mate to make sure she is OK? Not just mentally or, physically, but financially? But you love me??
Because its not HIS responsibility, its HERS! If love is not enough, to bad, go get a man that feels as you do!



How can I stop getting mad at a boyfriend that doesn't help me financially.
Stop expecting him to support you financially! Take responsibility for your own finances.

Jake2008
Jan 16, 2012, 06:39 AM
He is your boyfriend, not your husband. You can't expect the benefit of shared resources, financially or otherwise (his benefits, life insurance, etc.).

Marriage is the union of a man and a woman, the two become one so to speak, and the goals of both, become the goals of one. i.e. saving for a down payment, buying a new car, having children, etc.

A boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is two, independent people, sharing a relationship, but without the benefit of marriage.

You should be able to take care of yourself. He should be able to take care of himself. Should at some point the two of you become 'one' and marry, that is an entirely different ballgame.

But being in love, and having a boyfriend, does not automatically mean he should be financially helping you out. If you need help financially, in my opinion, it shouldn't come from, or be expected to come from him.

geminichick
Jan 16, 2012, 10:18 AM
In my opinion, it's never anyone's responsibility to make sure your emotionally, physically fine or anything otherwise. That is each and everyone's own responsibility for your own health. You have to be independent and self-relient instead of being reliant on someone else to look after your well-being. Fo me, that is a sign of co-dependancy and being emotionally needy.