So I met this girl over a year ago. We talked and clicked, met and kissed, but she had a boyfriend however after so much confusion from her part whether to stick with him or choose me.. She chose him and that ended in failure.

Even though I was patient for long time waiting for her to decide, I ended up having a physical relationship with her friend who was making moves on me for a while. Although she got really upset about it, I didn't feel entirely guilty because we weren't dating and she was with her boyfriend. After her break-up she went into the "I hate men" phase, but I was supportive and did what I can.

After that we had a long period of confusion where she would say she want me, but never really act on it. What was weird is that she would rush to see me when she finds out that I saw the other girl. So, I felt it was like a competition. She would only surface when that girl does. Then she'd act loving and saying she loves me, but next day she'd back off a bit till other girl surfaces up again.

I had to endure a battle between two girls, but I only cared about one obviously. However I never felt we reached the relationship phase. Never went on a date, well once after I made this point clear to her. The other girl showed me proof via saved MSN conversation that my girl said clearly she slept with three men, but of course she denied saying she was only showing off. That's just one example of what I had to go through. Eventually I decided to play along and didn't bother.

However it gives you a negative feeling about yourself thinking a girl is playing you. Telling you what she wants when she fears she will lose you, then quickly forgets and sustains this endless loop.

Also every time I ask to see her she'd make an excuse saying she is in the hospital cause she says she has cancer, but honestly I never saw any signs. However I can't accuse someone of making such a thing up. I only see her when she decides to see me, and of course only when that girl makes a move on me. Eventually we had a downfall cause I grew tired of the whole thing. I caught her lying to me about being in the hospital by texting her from another number and lured her into meeting me. I told her why you have to lie so hard? She said she just doesn't want to put me through her sickness. She said she loves me and doesn't want to hurt me and that I deserve to be happy, I deserve better. I told her who are you to decide for me what makes me happy. She insists on that I deserve better. So then we went separate ways for about 2 weeks, till that girl made me a visit and we had a physical thing again. She texted her to tease her about it, and now my girl started talking to me again and we made love. She says she wants to be with me now, but deep inside I don't know if I should give her a chance. I don't want to be played with. Should I trust her?

For example, I asked her to stay the night and she said her parents don't let her. Tonight she is sleeping at her girlfriend's house. I told her to come see me a bit she said she wants to have night with the girls as if we been dating a year. Although is it really her girlfriend's house? Or?

Funny thing is, since the other girl is luring around me still, my girl said she will come quick if that girl shows up.

Do you see my confusion? Writing it made me think what the hell am I doing with her?

I hope to get some replies from you, and sorry for the long essay :)

Can you not find something better to do than be played by two female friends?

Dump them both, as you should have long ago, and that ends the confusion.

You're not getting what you want from her, so why bother going through all this turmoil? Being played with sucks and it's confusing, it drains you mentally. You should move on unless you're happy being confused all the time. No relationship should start the way it's going on between you two right now.

I don't know why you would let yourself be used this way.

If you were a woman, and two men were treating you this way, it might be easier to understand and see, that you are being played. There is nothing honourable about either person.

Not to mention you are playing a game here too. You know that being involved with one is like dangling a carrot so the other one will come running. What could you possibly hope to gain by doing that.

You are all using each other in very immature, mean ways. Add the texting and Facebook nonsense, and you all sound like a bunch of 12 year olds.

I don't know how old you are, but hopefully you will eventually learn that you can't have your cake and eat it too. (look it up if you don't know what that means)

If you want a serious relationship without games, stop playing games.