love_lillania
Jan 13, 2012, 07:35 PM
I've been dating my boyfriend for two and a half years now. We met while both working at a casino. At first things were good, we would go out on dates and money was never an issue. He always paid for everything, lunch, dinner, bar, club, concerts, etc. And never complained. And I would always buy him random things I knew he needed. Then I got laid off and I started going to school full time. I had no source of income other than financial aid for school. I lived at home with my mom so I didn't have to pay rent. He was living with his parents also and they made him pay $300 a month.
About a year into our relationship he got kicked out of his parent's house and he had nowhere to go, so he asked me if he could live with me. I told him I had to ask my mom, she said it was okay as long as he paid $200 in rent. Things were okay at first, I would cook and have dinner ready for him when he came home from work and I always did his laundry. But while living together I began to see how he was with his money. Every thing he spent and made he would log into a calendar. And at this point we had stopped going out anywhere and spent most of our time at home together.
Whenever we would get into an argument about something, he would always bring up all the money he spent on me when we did go out somewhere in the past. I just don't understand what money has to do with how much you love someone. When you say you love them then you don't mind doing nice things for them; whether it be buying them lunch, or cooking them dinner at home. He only sees the money he has spent on me in the past, but he doesn't see the things I've done for him. Just because I didn't spend a lot of money to make him dinner or do his laundry, he doesn't feel I've contributed and invested in the relationship the same amount he has. So what do you think, is he cheap?
About a year into our relationship he got kicked out of his parent's house and he had nowhere to go, so he asked me if he could live with me. I told him I had to ask my mom, she said it was okay as long as he paid $200 in rent. Things were okay at first, I would cook and have dinner ready for him when he came home from work and I always did his laundry. But while living together I began to see how he was with his money. Every thing he spent and made he would log into a calendar. And at this point we had stopped going out anywhere and spent most of our time at home together.
Whenever we would get into an argument about something, he would always bring up all the money he spent on me when we did go out somewhere in the past. I just don't understand what money has to do with how much you love someone. When you say you love them then you don't mind doing nice things for them; whether it be buying them lunch, or cooking them dinner at home. He only sees the money he has spent on me in the past, but he doesn't see the things I've done for him. Just because I didn't spend a lot of money to make him dinner or do his laundry, he doesn't feel I've contributed and invested in the relationship the same amount he has. So what do you think, is he cheap?