RollTide
Jan 13, 2012, 10:55 AM
A few years ago, I had a major soccer tournament that took place over my Spring Break. Unfortunately, the captain (Sara) on the team and I were not getting along. She kept throwing jabs and spiteful/condescending comments toward me in which I could not tolerate. I was dating someone at the time in which she did not like and always felt the needs to indirectly say condescending remarks. Although I tried keeping my cool, I eventually lost it and we both got in a huge spat. Despite efforts to patch things up afterward, her and I never really liked each other. I can say with full conviction that I never did anything wrong to her other than react to her comments. I never understood why she was always rude to me or why she felt like she had the right to impede into my personal life, but that's what I had to face with.
What's worse, is that I also had another issue with my best friend at the time. She had liked a guy who never liked her back and would ditch me repeatedly for him. Even worse, she was always afraid that he would end up liking me, thus, would create events/parties and never invite me if he was going to show up. I eventually caught on to this, and I stopped contact with her, as well as her pathetic efforts to maintain some friendship that clearly did not exist. At any rate, she has told people/my teammates that I don't want to be friends with her "for no reason" and that I'm a "*****" for ignoring her attempts. She has not made mention of the guy to ANY of them which is unfair,and they're all buying her story.
I haven't said anything to any of them because no one has even asked, and I figured that they won't believe me anyway because they too did not like the guy I was dating at the time and also because I got into a huge argument with Sara. In short, my teammates continue to look down on me and I seem to have a very bad reputation when I don't feel like I'm even in the wrong.
A few years later, they all still dislike me. I've noticed that if Sara sees me at a party/event where I am dressed somewhat presentable, she treats me like garbage; however, if I'm scrubbed out in sweats, she's incredibly nice. Sounds pretty teenage like, but that's the observation that I have noticed. Also, because I did not graduate on time, they all seem to scoff at that and indirectly make comments (especially my former best friend) on how some people are "slow" and "graduate late."
At any rate, I have been working for a disabled individual (Alexa) in my town. Ironically, Alexa also knows Sara as well. This past weekend, Alexa received a call from Sara where she asked Alexa if her best friend could start working for her. Sara claims that her best friend had gotten thrown out of her parents house and now desperately needs a job. Alexa told her that I already work for her and that she likes my work. In addition, she told her to speak to me about it and see what I have to say. Although Sara agreed, she has yet to contact me. Even more startling, she called Alexa again on Monday and begged her to allow her friend to work and that she "needs the job more" than I.
I know Sara won't call me and Alexa has made it clear to her that she doesn't want to drop me. Despite this, however, I'm still very irritated. I feel very disrespected that she's asking her behind my back to drop me; however, I know that if I say anything to her at all, I may find myself in more trouble with those girls. I know I shouldn't care, but it hurts knowing that I have this terrible reputation even though they're misinformed and ignorant of what truly went down. However, I still want to say something to her to let her know that she definitely crossed the line (again).
Any opinion as to how I should deal with Sara?
What's worse, is that I also had another issue with my best friend at the time. She had liked a guy who never liked her back and would ditch me repeatedly for him. Even worse, she was always afraid that he would end up liking me, thus, would create events/parties and never invite me if he was going to show up. I eventually caught on to this, and I stopped contact with her, as well as her pathetic efforts to maintain some friendship that clearly did not exist. At any rate, she has told people/my teammates that I don't want to be friends with her "for no reason" and that I'm a "*****" for ignoring her attempts. She has not made mention of the guy to ANY of them which is unfair,and they're all buying her story.
I haven't said anything to any of them because no one has even asked, and I figured that they won't believe me anyway because they too did not like the guy I was dating at the time and also because I got into a huge argument with Sara. In short, my teammates continue to look down on me and I seem to have a very bad reputation when I don't feel like I'm even in the wrong.
A few years later, they all still dislike me. I've noticed that if Sara sees me at a party/event where I am dressed somewhat presentable, she treats me like garbage; however, if I'm scrubbed out in sweats, she's incredibly nice. Sounds pretty teenage like, but that's the observation that I have noticed. Also, because I did not graduate on time, they all seem to scoff at that and indirectly make comments (especially my former best friend) on how some people are "slow" and "graduate late."
At any rate, I have been working for a disabled individual (Alexa) in my town. Ironically, Alexa also knows Sara as well. This past weekend, Alexa received a call from Sara where she asked Alexa if her best friend could start working for her. Sara claims that her best friend had gotten thrown out of her parents house and now desperately needs a job. Alexa told her that I already work for her and that she likes my work. In addition, she told her to speak to me about it and see what I have to say. Although Sara agreed, she has yet to contact me. Even more startling, she called Alexa again on Monday and begged her to allow her friend to work and that she "needs the job more" than I.
I know Sara won't call me and Alexa has made it clear to her that she doesn't want to drop me. Despite this, however, I'm still very irritated. I feel very disrespected that she's asking her behind my back to drop me; however, I know that if I say anything to her at all, I may find myself in more trouble with those girls. I know I shouldn't care, but it hurts knowing that I have this terrible reputation even though they're misinformed and ignorant of what truly went down. However, I still want to say something to her to let her know that she definitely crossed the line (again).
Any opinion as to how I should deal with Sara?