MrFlip911
Jan 12, 2012, 09:21 PM
Okay, so I'm a 19 year old guy, and I go to college where I met this girl. I was pretty interested in her so, I approached her, and we start talking, and became friends. I can't describe how great our friendship, and how close we became, there wasn't a topic we didn't talk about, and we literally talked to each other about everything! It was actually weird if we didn't talk for a day, or two, it rarely happens and that's how close we became.
However through my friendship with her, her love life was going upside down, she knows this guy who was her boyfriend for 5 long years (she is also 19 so it's pretty much childhood love to now), and when I was still her best friend she got back with him (this is their 4th relapse). He always treated her bad, whether it was before, or now, he always treated her bad, and once they fought AGAIN, and stopped talking for two weeks (that was 1 year after we met). We both had developed feelings for each other, and she was ready to leave him for me. Once it finally happened that guy cussed her calling her a ***** and many things I'd be ashamed to call her!
After all these years he does that to her! She gets to crying, and whatever, and she was okay. After that by a few weeks, we confessed our feelings, and became friends with benefits (not sex benefits just love benefits), as I don't think she was ready yet. However about a month and half later we got together, and we stayed for just two and a half months which were like heaven to me. I've never really loved anyone since all my relationships were for fun, she even changed my mind about marriage, everything was just perfect, until she saw her ex in a mall all dressed up (in her words, possibly waiting for a date). She told me these bad news crying to me on the phone, that sadness developed into her wanting to breakup, and her reason was that she doesn't want anything to do with relationships as she has "seen enough" and said if me and her are meant to be maybe one day we'd get married.
So she is basically looking for marriage directly now. (scared I would repeat what her ex did) So, after the break up happened I really had a hard time seeing her as a friend, and keep making jokes about us being a couple, and indirectly saying I love you, in hopes she'd miss what we had. NOW the big part is that she had mentioned several times she misses her ex, even though he did that to her, and she also misses all the memories with him (I understand the long relationship they had) so now she keeps getting depressed every time I indirectly show my love to her, and she seems very happy when I act just like a best friend. It almost seems like she never loved me, although one day when we were together she once said "I'm her dream guy".
Should I try and move on, or wait for her to maybe get back into her right mind, because I really love this girl and wouldn't mind getting married to her! Although all signs show negatively to me!
However through my friendship with her, her love life was going upside down, she knows this guy who was her boyfriend for 5 long years (she is also 19 so it's pretty much childhood love to now), and when I was still her best friend she got back with him (this is their 4th relapse). He always treated her bad, whether it was before, or now, he always treated her bad, and once they fought AGAIN, and stopped talking for two weeks (that was 1 year after we met). We both had developed feelings for each other, and she was ready to leave him for me. Once it finally happened that guy cussed her calling her a ***** and many things I'd be ashamed to call her!
After all these years he does that to her! She gets to crying, and whatever, and she was okay. After that by a few weeks, we confessed our feelings, and became friends with benefits (not sex benefits just love benefits), as I don't think she was ready yet. However about a month and half later we got together, and we stayed for just two and a half months which were like heaven to me. I've never really loved anyone since all my relationships were for fun, she even changed my mind about marriage, everything was just perfect, until she saw her ex in a mall all dressed up (in her words, possibly waiting for a date). She told me these bad news crying to me on the phone, that sadness developed into her wanting to breakup, and her reason was that she doesn't want anything to do with relationships as she has "seen enough" and said if me and her are meant to be maybe one day we'd get married.
So she is basically looking for marriage directly now. (scared I would repeat what her ex did) So, after the break up happened I really had a hard time seeing her as a friend, and keep making jokes about us being a couple, and indirectly saying I love you, in hopes she'd miss what we had. NOW the big part is that she had mentioned several times she misses her ex, even though he did that to her, and she also misses all the memories with him (I understand the long relationship they had) so now she keeps getting depressed every time I indirectly show my love to her, and she seems very happy when I act just like a best friend. It almost seems like she never loved me, although one day when we were together she once said "I'm her dream guy".
Should I try and move on, or wait for her to maybe get back into her right mind, because I really love this girl and wouldn't mind getting married to her! Although all signs show negatively to me!