I'm 27 and my life is a big disgrace and sham. I'm in a relationship with a split-up male who is twice my age with two adults kids near enough my age. I've being with him for nearly 6 years now.

Things were OK till his ex got cancer. I stood by him and she got through it and just got good results pending another scan in three months. I don't get on with his daughter. Actually, how could I since I haven't met her because she doesn't approve of her father seeing someone her age. The son is OK with it.

Also, this man is still living with his ex-partner and sharing a house. I can't stand that part either. He says he would have nowhere to live if he left, but we are trying to buy a house together which is at a very slow pace.

The ex never met me. We spoke once or twice on the phone; that is all. Also, his daughter isn't talking to him these past two years because he is with me. Age difference thing again.

Ok, that's the background here. He is not afraid to show me off to his neighbours, and his ex is currently dating someone--just in case you're wondering. He brings me to his local also and I've met his son loads of times. I also lived with him for 9 months in Asia and also back home because of the cancer thing with his ex.

Next problem is that all of his family--sisters and brother apart from 4 out of 8--hate me, so I'm lucky that way. At least half of them are OK with me until one of them started ruining everything we had. She is an alcoholic and threatened me, said that I beat her up which clearly I didn't, but that's drink for you. Then she told all his family and now most of them hate me. She became obsessed with him and wanted me out of the picture by any means, tried to top herself three times in one week. Blamed me for nothing again. Made me look real bad in front of him and his sisters and brothers.

Next problem. My best and only real friend is vying to Australia and bailing out on me which I can't come to grips with. We've been friends since childhood and I can't even bear to think of her going away for two years. I won't survive with no friend to talk to and hang out with.

Next problem. My ex from 9 years ago decided he'd add me on Facebook. So we became friends. We have a long history of nothing but pain. Our relationship lasted a couple of years. He recently started texting me, asking how things were. I told him ****, so he asked me out and to go to his house for a bit of fun which I rejected because I will not be used as a play toy for anyone. When we broke up years ago, it was rough and hard. I didn't take it too well, so a few years ago, I texted him when I was with the current boyfriend age-difference guy. And he squealed on the boyfriend back. It was only when he recently contacted me did he tell me he never told my boyfriend that I texted him and that the age-difference guy caught me out. Which now I don't know who to believe.

Anyway, the ex-boyfriend sent me load of texts saying if you're happy l'll leave you alone and as you know I'm single so no complications, like what I have with the current age-difference guy. So anyway, to be on the safe side, I rejected him every time as the ex. I rang him and told him he can't be texting me stuff like looking for fun and stuff like that. Now he has deleted me, told me I will never hear from him again, said we could be friends but can't be friends on Facebook in case he comes home drunk from a pub some night and messages me something. I told him that I think there is more to this story--like I'm sure he can control himself unless I'm in his head all the time. I asked him to tell me, but then he blocked me on Facebook and now no contact at all.

I do like this guy and I might still have feelings, but I cannot tell, plus he is more my age and has everything I want in a man. Oh forgot to add--I told him I didn't want him back and he said he didn't want me back either--just some fun. He is single three months. But I don't think I can trust him to ask because he might tell my current age-difference guy who is useless and not helpful to me at all.

Now I can't sleep and have no clue what to do or where I stand. Ex also told me I would never hear from him again. I kind of miss him but I don't think I love him, but the age-difference guy is all wrong for me, but I love him and I want to stay with him, but I also want to find out if the other guy is serious or just messing. I would like to be with the ex, but I never see him anywhere and I can never get a face-to-face chat unless the age-difference guy is there.

So, help me please. Ex also said he texted me but was messing. It didn't feel like that, but I am not sure what's in his head and he won't tell me either. So any advice about my problems I will gratefully accept because I am sleep deprived. Thanks in advance, guys and girls. Please help me, though. I'm very confused.

Ok, you lived with your boyfriend, then boyfriend moved back home with his ex, both are dating others but he lives with her. He moved back in with you, but then oved back to ex.

Really sorrta confusing. He is treating you this way, since you allow him to. You have allowed him to make you second to his ex ( I would not even call her a ex, since he seems to be there for her more than you)

As for his kids, who cares what they think, but why should they not like you, if you make him happy.

But he needs to be with you, not jump back and forth.

I would make it clear, he has to make a choice, if he does not, he really does choose her. Time to stop accepting stories and excuses, and time for him to be there for you

Ok I ve told him he has till the end of this year to sort his life out or I'm gone , an lately I ve been removing myself emotionally from him but I still want to know what the deal is with the ex boyfriend it's very strange I want some light shed on that

It is abundantly clear you should rebuild your life without all the characters who are in it. More fun, less drama, and trauma!

Starting over from scratch ain't easy, but it will be less confusing. Especially if you stay away from relationships and enjoy being single, and free.

But only recently he has become single. We have only spoke once or twice since 2001 the most recent was 2010 February. Anyway we were going for two years an then we split up back in 2001 I didn't take it well and I went and done all the wrong things as he went into a relationship very soon with a colleague from school. She wouldn't have being a friend but I know her anyway we left it at that an never reunited or spoke till 2010. I text him just to take the piss I was drunk but he did reply. Anyway since then he has split up about three months ago before Christmas 2011

Suddenly before Christmas he add me on Facebook, and couldn't wait to tell me he was single again three months at Christmas. We spoke quite often on Facebook until I decided he was interfering in my relationship, I had told him straight I didn't want him, and he agreed he didn't want me back either. So we became friends.

Then New Years I felt, seeing as he isn't close to anyone I would wish him a happy New Year. Anyway since then he started texting me at night just saying the word goodnight. Shortly after that one night he sent me a text saying he was stoned an wanted me to collect him an leave me home, he also knew I was not getting on well with my boyfriend due to unforeseen events on his previous relationship, so next message was am single as you know so no complications! Now it would be the right thing to do given the choice I was in with my boyfriend and his ex. I told him I wasn't interested and he said maybe for fun.

Anyway next few days past, no texts at all so I rang him an told him not to be texting stuff like that to me as I was still in a relationship. So he quit , he stopped being friends with me on FB he said he might make a mistake a text me when he was drunk some night anyway we text some more during the day but just normal stuff an he keeps telling me about how I never believed him in the relationship an how I always analyze everything anyway. I dumped my boyfriend because I couldn't handle the stuff that was going on between him an his ex ,and I told the ex I was single but I also said I was getting back with him or my ex. He still keeps texting me but just normal stuff or if he s trying to wind me up? He always initiates texting so I don't know why he would keep texting me when I don't really think we are close as friends or even friends at all. Plus I don't think I could even mention that I do want him back and have feelings for him still, so I deny them because he denies it too .

He was the one who said he didn't want to get back together. He still texting me two months later. I wish him well in finding someone new. I even tried telling him about a girl to try and set him up . He seemed really interested the first day we text about it, but the next day I just sent something really funny about him going out with her an he decided he s not really that bothered about her. He told me he's only having a laugh when he winds me up about stuff, and says I'm really easy to wind up.

Anyway the other day he was telling me about his family as well and it seemed he was telling the truth, I know when he was with me he never told me anything serious unless he was drunk but he would also tell me the same in morning. I just want to know whether he has feelings for me or is he just winding me up an making fun of me for the crack. I just want to know but I am not going to tell him I have feelings for him, I really wanted him back years ago but he wouldn't so I probably pushed him away even more. I still don't know the reason why we broke up I just assume it because he fell for the colleague I am not sure please help though I need to find out why he is texting me.I hope some one can tell me what's going on here.

Since neither of you can talk honestly, you play this game with each other mostly because you are bored and have nothing better to do for yourselves. You both need a life.