My ex and me have (had) been together for nearly 3 years! We met when I was 18 and he 22 we are now 22 and 25. My ex is a very hard worker how loves his friends and sport. I am a student studying design. And I work 2 jobs. Early on in the relationship about 1 year in I was being a bit clingy and being jealous when he spent time with his mates and not me and he broke up with me for a week but we still talked every day but I realized my mistakes and I told him this and we worked out set days to see each other so no issues would happen and we were happen since.

After two years together my partner bought his first house and asked me to move into the house together. I even picked the house he bought. We lived together for 4 months and all was good. The over the last 2 months he pulled away a little, sex lost a bit of the spark and I found myself nagging him more and he not doing things I ask him to do. I was also going though a bit of a depression with was hard on us. Then one night after a little fight he told me he didn't think he loved me any more! I was blind sighted! So I asked if we could still be together and id move out and give him space for a month and see if it helped. So I moved in with my mum but I kept calling and message him and didn't really give him space because I was so scared to pull away in case he forgot me or something. So after a month he said the he didn't want to live with me yet and the he didn't think he saw us getting married or that we were right for each other and he had been happy living at the house alone.

So I stayed at my mums and we stayed together and I dropped the living together issue. We spent Christmas together and he bought me lots of amazing gifts and I stayed up at the house over Christmas and he took me away on a little holiday (his idea) and we said our I love yous again. I thought things were better so on the last day I was staying at the house before going back to mums I asked if I could move home. He said no he wasn't ready and that it wasn't me it was him. But I didn't drop it. I kept asking and asking over the day and the next day hoping that he would cave I guess (which I see now is wrong and that I should respect his feelings).

That afternoon he came to see me and he told me that it was over that he didn't want the responsibility of a partner at the moment and that he was happy being alone. He didn't want to string me along so it was for the best to end it. I asked if he wanted to go out and get girls and he said no not at all. He just doesn't want to answer to anyone at the moment he wants to be alone because he can not give 100% to the relationship. Doesn't think we are right for each other.

So I told him all the reasons we are right. And he still wanted to leave he cried and left the next day I called to ask if we didn't live together and kept dating would it work and he said he had made his choice yesterday and was sticking to it. I asked if he still loved me and he said it isn't going to help telling me that

I am heartbroken I didn't speak to him for 4 days then I called to ask if I could get my clothes he was not talkative and straight to the point. So I went and got my clothes, shoes and study things when he wasn't there and the house was the same pics of us still up and all. But I am leaving my furniture there for now as no room at mums.

Since last speaking it has been 2 days and since break up 7 days. Do you think he got cold feet? Will he come back? What should I do to get him back?

The only thing I'm going to do is not contact him until he calls me and move onwards in life but my heart is still with him. Will he realize his mistake? Please help.

My ex called after one week, I told him I have accepted the breakup but the it doesn't change my feelings for him. Will this leave the door open for him to come back? I really want him back! Have I done the right thing?

I know my answer won't help, but I just wanted to say that I am going through the same thing. Except I'm 19 and he's 23. I'm trying to move on and to keep myself occupied even though its killing me. I'm just waiting now.

Please go do your own thing, and leave him alone. Sell him the furniture or put it in storage, he is serious about leaving, so its safe to assume he doesn't want to come back so forget the waiting.

You cannot make someone want you. He sounds serious about his decision. Respect it and move on.

My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me after me pushing him away and then when he needed space smothering him, I feel maybe I should do a gesture to win him back? Like a loving message saying your family misses you or something sweet? Right now I am trying the no contact and letting him contact me. What are your thoughts? Advice?

You have already done all the begging pleading, and grand gestures, and it didn't work. Doing it again and expecting it to work this time is desperate insanity.

You need to accept that it's over and start the healing process.

Keep your dignity and go no contact;no more communication;it's time to start moving on.