Now I'm 58 years old. I've an opportunity to have sex with a 18 years old girl. My health status is all right and no abnormalities is detected yet. I have had sex with 21 years old girl occasionally before and no problems at all. Can it be harmful or any effect for me?

Why would you think an 18 year-old would be any worse for your health than a 21 year-old?

Except for a heart attack trying to be something you aren't anymore... like 20 years old.

I see no dangers for you.

I do question her health, in general.

Hello d:

Being interested in girls young enough to be your granddaughter is ALREADY harmful. To ME it verges on pedophilia...

excon

Hello d:

Being interested in girls young enough to be your granddaughter is ALREADY harmful. To ME it verges on pedophilia...

excon

Got to agree Ex... just because it s legal, and you can doesn't mean you should.

To be blunt, how is your sex life with women your age? I have to wonder if the almost taboo nature of having sex with someone so young is what is keeping your libido up instead of an interest in a healthy sexual relationship with someone you are building a future with. It brings up thoughts of men who have erectile difficulties but try to ignore any growing problems by trying 'something' new or younger.

Of course a major question is: Are you married or currently involved in a relationship with someone who believes it is a committed, monogamous relationship? Health is only one issue to consider. Have you considered the others?

I'm working on "I've an opportunity ..." That doesn't sound quite like consentual sex to me... or does it?

I'm working on "I've an opportunity ..." That doesn't sound quite like consentual sex to me ... or does it?

18 year old Hooker?

18 year old Hooker?


Could be - I just am unsure about the wording.

I've had young women that young (like 18 to 22) approach me before... but not that often and I am younger than he is...

But its NOT a daily thing. I dismissed them as gold diggers. Besides I have a wife that I know isn't, takes great care of herself... and I am happy with. So I've got REALLY high standards when it comes to temptation.

Can't say I can't be tempted... but the odds of certain supermodels seeking me out... aren't that great. Me and my wife joke about that all the time...

Thanks to everyone,

I'm a single and led a community health development program in Northern Thailand with my team of 47 staffs.
Also I'm healthy without any cardiac problems yet. Most of my staffs as well as trainees are female and they're
Almost between 20 and 25 years of age. According to our work, we have relationships with very familiarly or very
Intimately throughout days and nights. Also we are doing screening assessment of human sexuality in our one of
Many programs. They asked many questions about sexual behaviors to the potential clients and simultaneously
They eager to know the details of what they didn't understand well. Together at the same time they would like to try
What they didn't do previously. They would try to have sex but their knowledge as well as educational level, it should
Be safe and has no adverse effects after that. They see me and think it's appropriate for them as I'm single and
A physician with the knowledge of safe sex and contraceptive skills, therefore they think neither complication nor
Problem would be arose. Among them, 4 are my most intimates and stayed together with me in the same building.
They offered me to share sex with them cordially, generously and unremittingly and explained they know that I also
Have sexual desire as I'm healthy, single and unmarried man, fully endowed with knowledge of human sexuality.
That I mean, it's quite consentual and not an abuse. In addition, they asked me if they would not get from me they
Should look for that from others by any means or tenaciously and do I want to be happen like that.
Honestly, I would like to admit that I'm a human being and in that same situation what shall you do? Did you still
Diagnose me as 'verges on pedophilia... ' or '18 year old Hooker'?

Your sincerely,
DHZ

Hello D:

Your role with these young adults is that of an authority figure... As such, it's NOT appropriate for you to take advantage of it. I have NO problem with you TRYING to get laid, even if you seek out young girls. I think you ought to look elsewhere for your trysts.

excon

Knowledge of birth control methods should come with the understanding that no form of birth control (short of removal of the ovaries) is 100 percent effective. Nature's favorite game seems to be 'Beating the Odds'. Are any of you ready to become parents?

Quite frankly, I think you know there is something mentally and emotionally wrong in having sex with these women. If you are in a position of authority over them in a very intimate setting then there is something even more wrong with the situation. They may be asking, but you do not have to take them up on it. You should be mature enough to explain to them that they should find committed relationships and not use sex as a recreational game or an experiment.

Don't try to use 'education' to rationalize why having sex with these young women is acceptable. There are possible consequences that should not be overlooked or blatantly ignored. One of those consequences could be an unplanned for pregnancy.

Just because open discussions of sex occur, it does not mean you have to give hands on demonstrations.

I am wondering why you posted your question since it seems you should already know the answer. You are an educated, healthy, and mature male surrounded by young, healthy, educated females who are curious and consenting. So, maybe they aren't as mature in thinking about the consequences of having sex for curiosity's sake. However, it seems as long as it isn't harmful to your health, it isn't your problem. Is that how you see these interactions?

Several issues here...
#1, there is such a great age gap... you would have very little in common.

#2, in not many years she's going to realize you are rapidly getting decrepit... and she isn't even in her prime yet... so she's going to be fooling around with someone her own age. And Soon you would find yourself with a pregnant wife who is carrying a child that's not yours.

I know enough about the Thai culture to know its not exactly the same... but there are certain things are universal across cultures.

Sure a lot of 18 year olds are damned good looking, but they are almost universally emotionally and intellectually immature too at that age.

And its going to result in friction and discontent when the initial lust wears thin.

And #3. If anything... there are far MORE gold diggers looking for someone to support her family in Thailand, than most other places.

And you supporting HER family will come before everything else. That's part of the Thai Culture. And that's the part I as an American have the greatest problem with. I bust my butt to support myself AND my wife and make the best life together we can have... and that's impossible with most of my money going to HER entire family.

You are accustomed to that as its part of your culture however and know what you are getting into.

Her loyalty to her family is greater than any loyalty to you is... assuming it ever progressed beyond sex.

But I also know in the thai culture, casual sex between unmarried people is highly frowned upon... and most that do that are the bar girls. A tiny fraction of the Thai population. So knowing that... I would wonder what she is after.

I see this the same abuse as we see in the US when it's a teacher and a student. Chilling, indeed.

And a PHYSICIAN is coming on AMHD to ask "us" advice on whether it's safe for him to have sex with someone about one-third of his age?

Well, on the plus side - he's (self described) healthy, single and unmarried man, fully endowed (I personally don't enjoy men who are partially endowed).

Isn't Thailand the underage sex capital of the world? I question whether this "study" is legit!

I say if you can get it... go for it... but your role as a mentor or authority figure will be compromised. Its unethical for a person in your position to seek out people at work simply because "I can". I am 32 yrs old and sex with an 18 yr old makes me cringe... they don't know anything. Why don't you find a woman in her 30s who knows what she is doing at least and you can satisfy each others urges.

It will not be harmful for you it will harm that girls.