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shania21096
Jan 9, 2012, 11:32 AM
I found out my boyfriend is in to pot and I don't know what to do
Aurora_Bell
Jan 9, 2012, 11:47 AM
Shania, this isn't really a chat or blog spot, we are all on on different times. We live all over the world :D Why don't you start your own thread and we can help you?
ScottGem
Jan 9, 2012, 01:12 PM
As noted this isn't a chat site. You don't get immediate responses. When someone responds you get an e-mail notification.
Also its not a good idea to piggyback your question on another thread, so I've moved your question to its own thread.
To answer your question, you dump him. A teenager who is already into pot is not good boyfriend material.
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 05:39 AM
I don't want to brack up with my boyfriend he loves me more then anyone could ever know but he don't know that him bing on pot buggs me how do I tell him?
Aurora_Bell
Jan 10, 2012, 05:57 AM
If you guys are in love and he loves you more than anything, you should be able to open up to him and explain your feelings. You don't have to have a fight about it, just explain that smoking pot is something you really don't agree with and it bothers you. Explain why you feel this way and ask him what his thoughts are about it? How old are you guys?
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 05:59 AM
16 and 15 and thanks
Aurora_Bell
Jan 10, 2012, 06:01 AM
If you want the relationship to last you really do need to be honest with him. Do you think you can tell him how you feel?
ScottGem
Jan 10, 2012, 06:05 AM
If he really loved you he wouldn't do things that bother you so much and you wouldn't have a problem telling him.
So you tell him that his using pot bothers you and you don't want a boyfriend who is into drugs. If he doesn't stop then he doesn't really love you.
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 06:08 AM
Thanks guys your great help
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 06:15 AM
I really want to save this relashionship its my first real one I love him
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 06:53 AM
This relashionship means the world to me... he is the only one who trets me the way I should be, its because of him I'm passing school and everything els I love him so much and I am really putting my heart out there for him I really need help
Aurora_Bell
Jan 10, 2012, 07:25 AM
Well what else do you need help with?
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 07:32 AM
I need help with stoping me from being scared to tell him
Aurora_Bell
Jan 10, 2012, 07:38 AM
You just have to be honest. WHat are you scared about? Is he abusive? Do you think he will dump you? What about telling himyour feelings scares you? He seems like a really nice guy! It's normal to be nervous when you are confronting someone about a behavior you don't like, but as long as you do it in a non confrontational way, he should really understand that this is something that bothers you.
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 07:41 AM
I am just scared hell leave me and he is a really nice guy
Aurora_Bell
Jan 10, 2012, 08:40 AM
If he does leave you than that means he loves pot more than you. Which also means it wasn't meant to be. You can't put your happiness on the back burner in order to make another person happy. Don't be scared, just be honest. Start by asking him why he smokes pot, then tell him why you don't like it, and ask him if he would ever consider stopping smoking. Tell him it would make you happy to know that he will be much healthier by not smoking it.
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 08:46 AM
Thank you for your honesty
ScottGem
Jan 10, 2012, 08:47 AM
This is your first real relationship so you are scared to let go. This is natural. But you are only 15. You will have many more relationships. Each one will hurt to end and each one will make you stronger.
I think you are more in love with the fact of being in a relationship then you are with the boy. As noted. If he chooses pot over you, then it wasn't a real relationship on his part and you need to end it anyway.
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 09:04 AM
Think you for answearing me I needed some one like you... :)
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 09:09 AM
I got to go anyway thank you again
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 10:50 AM
I'm here again anyone there?
shania21096
Jan 10, 2012, 11:42 AM
I talk to my boyfriend and he is willing to give up pot thanks
Aurora_Bell
Jan 10, 2012, 12:05 PM
Oh that's great news Shania! See, it wasn't so bad now was it?
shania21096
Jan 11, 2012, 05:33 AM
You I love it and I love him hehehehe
shania21096
Jan 11, 2012, 06:48 AM
I really think he loves me what do you think?
Aurora_Bell
Jan 11, 2012, 06:53 AM
It sure does sound like he is smittenw ith you! It sure does sound like he respects you a whole bunch. Not a lot of guys (or girls for that matter) are willing to give things up to make another person happy. Sounds like he is a really nice guy! :)
shania21096
Jan 11, 2012, 07:11 AM
He is and I love him more then anything
shania21096
Jan 11, 2012, 07:16 AM
I know I ma 15 but I really do think I am in love with him what do you think on that?
shania21096
Jan 11, 2012, 07:58 AM
He is one guy who has really helped me in my life and I have beed thro a lot and he has been there for me nomatter what I did or what I am going thro he is the first boyfriend to call me beautiful and to respect me. I fell like I can be myself around him unlike when I am around anyone els I don't think I would be here if it wasn't for him being there for me. I really do think I am in love with him.
What do you think??
excon
Jan 11, 2012, 08:10 AM
i realy do think i am in love with him.
what do you think???Hello s:
At 15, I really DO think you THINK you're in love with him. And, I'm not telling you that you AREN'T, either. After all, I loved ALL the girls I've ever been with, and that includes the ones when I was a kid. I'm just telling you to ENJOY it while it lasts, but don't expect it to be forever... You ARE just 15. Hopefully, you'll fall in love 10 more times before you find your soul mate.
excon
shania21096
Jan 11, 2012, 08:44 AM
Thnks that helps alo but I have need been with this guy for 3 years and I hope we are forever like I said I hope
shania21096
Jan 11, 2012, 08:47 AM
Thanks sorry for the bad spelling
shania21096
Jan 11, 2012, 11:35 AM
My boyfriend is my life and I would love to be with him forever and I hope we will be. And I hope my parents will finely except him as he is but I have one thing I need to ask... how can I get my paents to be happy for me instand of doutting him and I ?
shania21096
Jan 12, 2012, 05:32 AM
My boyfriend fell yesterday and now his hole arm hurts do any of you guys think or know what the problem could be?
excon
Jan 12, 2012, 06:05 AM
Hello again, s:
Yes, he has a hole in his arm.
excon
shania21096
Jan 12, 2012, 06:09 AM
No his intier arm hurts lol not a hole in his arm hahaha
shania21096
Jan 12, 2012, 07:39 AM
I am faling music class grrr I need help to get my makes up what should I do??
Aurora_Bell
Jan 12, 2012, 07:54 AM
Why don't your parents like your boyfriend? Why are you failing music? Have you asked for help from your teacher or asked about after school tutering?
shania21096
Jan 12, 2012, 08:04 AM
Yes and about the boyfriend I don't know they have never liked him
Fr_Chuck
Jan 12, 2012, 08:20 AM
I have no doubt you are having trouble in school, your spelling is to poor I am surprised you are even passing any class. Your attention to detail is poor.
And you are obsessed with a boyfriend that is more problem to you are with progression in life.
shania21096
Jan 12, 2012, 08:24 AM
Thanks but know thanks I have my life kind of undercontol and I have a learning disabilaty
shania21096
Jan 12, 2012, 11:34 AM
I got kick out of my dads place because I faled music can I live with a friend at age 15?
Fr_Chuck
Jan 12, 2012, 11:53 AM
No, you can not just leave at a fiends, You will have to contact social services, who will either work with your mom or dad and try to get you back into the home. Or you will be put into foster care
Aurora_Bell
Jan 12, 2012, 12:10 PM
Actually, if both your parents agree, and the other parents agree toyou staying there, there is no need to be placed into foster care.