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Andybeck79
Jan 7, 2012, 10:24 PM
I met this women two months ago, and we hit it off almost instantly. Texting all day everyday, and when dating we got closer, and closer, great huh? She kept talking about future plans together a lot, and as Xmas approached, she started telling me dates in which she wanted to see me! It boils down to this! The day after boxing day we planned to stay at hers after going out for a few drinks. We go out, and have a great night. We wake up the next morning have more sex, and she then gets up, her phone keeps going? Her ex has text her 3 times, so she tells him she has a date round, and go away?

He comes round her flat, they argue down the phone whilst I'm their, not nice whatsoever. Ok so she says she needs to go see her mate as she is upset, no problems but we arrange to see each other later? She sends me a text late afternoon saying she needs time as she is embarrassed and has too many feelings going around. I say OK we will catch up soon and leave it at that, I didn't and needed answers so text her numerous times. Maybe I over crowded her but I needed answers and she just tells me don't worry I'm not going to finish things I just need space.

New Years day morning I receive a text to say she thinks we need to just remain friends as she saw her ex last night and still has feelings for him. I'm now trying not to text her in order to give her space, I just can't believe how him texting her one morning has ruined what was looking very promising. She was so into it up to that point and has left me a little hurt and with so many questions unanswered?

Do I just leave it for a couple of weeks then contact her, or should I move on as it most probably will happen again? Your thoughts.

talaniman
Jan 9, 2012, 04:30 PM
Its really simple guy, the situation has changed and is no longer promising as it was before. Now that you know there is an ex in the picture, and she still has feelings for him, you disappear, and keep your dignity, and self respect.

No answer to any question will ever explain adequately how she can jump so easily from one guy to another, and back again, and will bring more confusion and drama than understanding.

Disappear, forever. It was fun while it lasted but its time to let go, and move on and accepting that its done is the closure that you need.

Andybeck79
Jan 9, 2012, 05:03 PM
Cheers pal! She has text me a couple of times since and kind of organised to go for some food as friends? As I come to terms with stuff the more I think about it I'm probably better not delving into the real facts. In fact I'm happy it happened now other than in 8-10 months time,these things happen and if I can get her face to face I will get the closer.better than having by text anyway.. cheers

my_moon
Jan 14, 2012, 05:06 PM
U know ? I think its like a lesson for uu ! U trust her so deeeeeep ! U shouldn't oki ? Whatever ! U don't have trust anyone! Am totally agree with "talanimal" so just forget her and desapeaaaaaaaaaaaar ! Am totally sure you will forget her even you get hurt I can understand u ! Its not that easy to forget ! Because she already was planing to the future just like you got married haha ! Well be careful next time don't do first step before you understand it ! :)