My boyfriend asked me to have sex with his two friends. Would I do it or not?

How would you feel if he was having sex with YOUR friends? Would you be OK with that?

And if you eventually get married, would you be OK with having sex with other men - or him having sex with other women?

If you are OK with all of that, then go for it... but in my opinion it is not something that is healthy for relationships.

Sounds like he thinks of you as a sex object whom he can 'rent' out to his friends. I would feel that he didn't respect me and I was nothing more than a glory hole for anyone he decided to let use. I would dump him and find someone who truly respects you and cares about your well being.

Of course you reject this wish, and reject him too, as this is the pattern of pimps and their whores. You are not a whore.

Do you love him enough to be one? If so, that's NOT love, and that he even asked is NOT love either. Don't be foolish!! Tell him to get a willing whore, and you get a man who offers real love.

Actually, this isn't terribly uncommon. I know a couple personally who get into this kind of stuff and they are very happy together. Furthermore, they know of several other couples who do the same thing. They are all normal, well-adjusted people who have a private life just like everyone else. It's not for everybody as there is a possible health risk involved (do you know where his friends have been)? There is also the moral argument which shouldn't be ignored (what if he also wants another woman, what if you get pregnant, can you live with yourself afterwards, what are the pros and cons of such activity, etc.) Search yourself, do some homework, then go from there.

Actually, this isn't terribly uncommon. I know a couple personally who get into this kind of stuff and they are very happy together. Furthermore, they know of several other couples who do the same thing. They are all normal, well-adjusted people who have a private life just like everyone else. It's not for everybody as there is a possible health risk involved (do you know where his friends have been)? There is also the moral arguement which shouldn't be ignored (what if he also wants another woman, what if you get pregnant, can you live with yourself afterwards, what are the pros and cons of such activity, etc.) Search yourself, do some homework, then go from there.



Well thought out answer from the other side of the coin. --I personally disagree, but that's just my humble opinion :)

Aurora Bell, I'm not really on the other side of the coin. Sharing women isn't my thing. It is a flagrent sin, and I want nothing to do with it. I'm just trying to share what little I know on the topic so the asker can make as informed of a decision as possible. I hope I wasn't giving the wrong impression.

No, no-- I didn't necessarily think you were on the other side, but it was a well thought out response from the 'other side'. And I didn't so much disagree with your opinion, just the idea of sharing women screams disrespect and dysfunction. However, I wouldn't judge those who found happiness with this way of life, just not my cup of tea.

I would also like to know the age of the poster, if they are 20 or if they are 12 or 14 the answer may be very different.

No, this type of behavior is not only wrong but it can harm you. Leave this guy, only someone who doesn't care about you would ask you to do such a thing.

How do you feel about it ! That's the bottom line... Does it fit in with what you want out of life and relationships ? Only you know the answer... but I would suspect that your need to question this request on here, is answer enough.

You're asking why he would want this;only he knows why,but,personally I'd dump him and never speak to him again.

Thanks everyone for your best advice... I let him go. :(

Good choice.

Take care of yourself.

I agree, good choice :) Plenty of fish in the sea!