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eleasha101
Jan 3, 2012, 06:11 AM
I have a boyfriend who I have been dating for 2 years and he has lived my house ever since we started dating. He has hurt me bad when we fight and he an anger problem. Last week a day after Christmas we were in the car and I was driving and I asked him a question that he got offended about which made me mad so I slapped him and from right there he pulled my hair, pushed my hair against the window and more to just hurt me. He said he was deeply sorry, I forgave. But I couldn't break up with him because I don't want to be alone, I'm scared of that. He has hurt me before and said he wouldn't do it again but it did happen, the last time we got into a fight like that was a day after Christmas. Someone PLEASE HELP ! I do truly love him

mouse4702
Jan 3, 2012, 06:55 AM
You are scared of being alone, but you sound scared of what this relationship is costing you too. Fear of being alone is just fear of the unknown. Can being alone be worse than being physically abused ? You love this guy, I know, but there are loads of other guys out there who will love you, cherish you, treat you like a free human being and not a punchbag, and you will not meet them as long as you are with this guy. Sadly, men like this do NOT change, and if you let him get away with it, you are signalling to him that you will accept abuse. Therefore, he will continue to do it. Have you ended up in hospital yet ? Many girls in your position end up in the morgue. I'm sorry, I'm not being horrible, but it's something you should accept might be in your future. Is there a counsellor you could speak to, or a telephone helpline about domestic abuse ? You do not need to be alone, you need support and to have all the facts at your disposal, because you may have to make some tough decisions. You know in your heart that this is not the way for relationships to go, and you know that he says he won't do it again, but the words are empty. Please, put yourself first this time, and him second, and talk to some domestic abuse professionals locally. I wish you success and joy, you are clearly a fine and sensitive girl - and you deserve better than this.

talaniman
Jan 3, 2012, 12:27 PM
You both need counseling, and anger management. Get out of this dysfuntional out of control relationship until you both get some help.

lifebelike
Jan 16, 2012, 09:51 PM
If he is hurting you what is the point, but you love him well I don't think it is love if you guys fight and he hurts you I don't think it is wroth it, maybe you should go see someone and he should take anger management, I truly don't think you should be with him and don't be scared to be alone there are more fish in the sea