My ex-husband and his girlfriend are fighting with his mom and dad and my daughter has been visiting them for the past two weeks. I am worried she is beginning to feel the stress and anxiety between them and she is being put in the middle. She is coming home tomorrow and I want to know what are some things I can do to help her de-stress and let go of any negative feelings she has been having. She should be thinking about playing and not about who's feelings she might hurt if she is with one person vs the other :(

Very simple, you do all you can to get her out of that situation; a four year old should not be exposed to that stress. Her father and yes you too, should make sure she is not.

If this situation exists and you can prove I, get the court order modified to reduce his involvement.