I broken up with my partner of 3 years I'm 22 he's 21 and after a argument NYE new years day he pulled me by the hair, grabbed me by the neck in front of our 8month old, our relationship was a mess, emotional abuse, physical, jealously ( on both sides) mistrust because of cheating on both side, and I realise the relationship isn't healthy or truly happy. He's threatened to beat me up & take mybaby from me, and he says he says those things because he's hurt and upset. The last time we spoke he's begging me back and crying and I'm at the point of missing him so much I wna call him and I don't want to.. I want to be strong for my baby because I no it's the right thing to do. But I can't relax or stop thinking about it. I'm OK when I with people but I'm nOw on my own and feeling so lonely I need advice to NOT get back with this man. I've always been in serious relationships since I was 15 because I hate bieng lonely I need to learn to be happy on my own. If I'm on my own I sleep around or see other men I know for comfort which I know is bad! Helppp

You need to be alone and find out who you are. For many reasons. First you have become dependent and now are willing to suffer physcial abuse, and teach your child to abuse.

What will it take, perhaps the child being hurt, perhaps you being in the hospital.

Stop all contact, don't talk and run away as fast as you can.

I don't want my baby nOt to have a dad as I grew up without one it would kill him! I no he doesn't mean to act the way he does afta not a very good upbringing after the loss of his father at 9years old. I cnt make excuses I no but I need strength to be alone.

How can I love a person like this maybe I made him this way by cheating it was the bigest mistake of my life he adored me before it happened. I cnt help feeling its my fault why he's like it well that's what he tells me as well. I love him so much but yet there's not much real happiness between us I'm lost