stebear
Dec 30, 2011, 11:35 PM
I've been taking care of a disabled friend (and long-ago exboyfriend) for the last 3 years. Actually, more like 9 years, but he's only been disabled for 3. He is unable to walk any distance, even with a walker. Most daily activities are very difficult to impossible for him. A couple times a week, he can't even get to the bathroom in time. I shop, run errands, cook, and clean (which I'm not able to keep up with) without benefit of a car. In addition, I work full-time. His only contribution is his $200 per month food stamps, which covers his food, but not his cigarattes, otc medicines, take-out if I don't have the energy to cook, etc. He has Medicaid, but doesn't like his assigned doctor and won't call to get another. He ignored follow-up appointments after a pelvic fracture due to a fall. He was denied for SSI and won't bother appealing. Same with Medicaid-funded long term care. I am 53, HIV , and have high blood pressure to begin with--I just can't keep this up. How do I get him into a nursing home or even a homeless shelter that might lead to better care if he doesn't want to go. He is not on my lease, but I don't want to have the police get him because I can't be sure where he'll end up. I just need him out of here because the current situation isn't helping either of us.