I know it will never happen, but I have really fallen for him... I've fallen hard! Please help to move on from him!

Pearl Hunte. X

Pearlh49

Firstly, welcome to this great site!

You are 13, and he 25.
Age Difference = 25-13 = 12

He is almost double your age, and you are a minor, just in the initial teens. Wait, study and concentrate on other aspects of life. He can be your friend, but not a boyfriend, as at this point of life, you can't be a girlfriend. You are a child, dear. Just grow up out of teens. Wait, baby, wait! When you grow up, this age difference will sound small, e.g. when you are 30 and he 42, or you are 60 and he 72, the difference will look less, but here it is much. This is just one of many aspects, but the biggest aspect is you are very young in age.

Get good books, and read them. Listen to sweet music, and watch movies, which interest you. Be friends, but do not look beyond friendship. I hope you understand.

You spend more time with people your own age. You understand that this is not love, but an infatuation that will pass with time.

I don't know how you are in contact with this person, but you should not even be friends with him. You do not want to place him in a compromising position.

Are you saying it 'will never happen' because you have tried to get his attention, and he is not taking you seriously, or 'it will never happen' because you are smart enough to know that this is a really big mistake that could end him up in jail.

Like it or not, infatuation will often precede love- the initial attraction. At your age, and stage of development, those new feelings, along with the hormone changes in your body- developing breasts, your period starting, changes in your skin, moods, etc. all take place as you move from a child, to a developed woman-adult.

There is a very big gap between where you are now, and where you should be, before you consider yourself ready, and able to have any sort of relationship with a man. Even a friendship with a man his age, is not appropriate.

I understand how confusing these feelings are, and it is difficult to know how to deal with them, and what they mean. Try to reason this out, and look at the bigger picture, as I've said, about developing, and realize that you are not ready for some years to come, to consider a relationship, in the adult range of maturity.

I hope you will consider as well, that there are 24 year old men, and older, who are very skilled in manipulating under-age females just like yourself, who are young enough not to know better, and are attracted to a man who seems to 'understand' them, and profess to 'love' them. These men are called predators, and we see in the news every day, how men use the internet, and other venues, to lure young women like yourself, often with deadly consequences.

Good for you for being concerned enough to ask for opinions on how you feel, and mature enough to accept the answers you will get.

Be careful.

Yes, no contact what so ever, if they do try to keep contact, let your parents know.