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ariannaa
Dec 30, 2011, 02:48 AM
OK. First sorry about my english ! English is not my first language so.. Please understand!

Now I live in canada almost for 6 months!
And 2 months ago I met this guy at the b-day party.
He seems nice and we exchage phone number!
We met 3times, and afterward I try to avoid him (I thought we are difficut and feel like all he wants is just have sex!)
And here's a deal!
He texted me " would you beg to have sex with me and my friend?"
So I said "no, and you're gross!"

And then he said "haha I was just joking ,my friend and I were betting on what you would say"
OMG what kind of person he is?

I'm so want to revenge him...
So I took a photo of text and spread it out on Facebook sending this to his friends...
And then he discovered then said I'm a evil what you did was very spiteful.. blahblah

But he did wrong at first isn't it?
Need your opinion thanks!

J_9
Dec 30, 2011, 04:37 AM
How old are the two of you?

Fr_Chuck
Dec 30, 2011, 11:22 AM
This sounds like 12 year olds by the way they are acting.

It was wrong for him to text,

But that does not make it right for you to post it.

Aurora_Bell
Jan 3, 2012, 10:12 AM
Two wrongs do not make a right! Yea, it was wrong of him to send you a dirty text, but worse for your retaliation. The text he sent you was private, the one you SPREAD all over the internet is irreversable. The internet isn't written in pencil, once it's out there, it's out there for good it can not be undone. Some provinces have laws against cyber bullying, and that's exactly what you did.

I would suck up your shame and apologize.

iloveyou1234
Jan 12, 2012, 02:09 PM
You're both pretty much in the wrong he is for sending you all those text messages and you are for posting it all over Facebook. But to be honest if I were you I would apologise to him for posting it over Facebook because anyone can get hold off that and now he might be scared to go outside so yeah if I were you I would apoligise:)

tickle
Jan 22, 2012, 06:28 AM
As I see it, he only asked you to participate in a 3some. That was no reason to spread it on Facebook. IMO.

Pervert, no don't think he is that bad.

JudyKayTee
Jan 22, 2012, 07:37 AM
Continuing to ask the same question is NOT going to elicit different answers. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/its-about-dirty-text-got-your-opinion-623397.html

I don't think his text was that "dirty" (using your word). You don't even know if he was serious. You said you "met" him three times but avoid him because all he wants is sex. Maybe he has the impression that you/are were willing to have sex with him and perhaps his friend.

What you did was immature and childish. What is it you were revenging? A private text message he sent to you?

He may or may not be a pervert. You definitely are too juvenile to date.

excon
Jan 22, 2012, 08:20 AM
Hello a:

If asking for a threesome makes somebody a pervert, then count me in. Frankly, though, a threesome is mild...

excon

ScottGem
Jan 22, 2012, 09:16 AM
I've merged your threads. Please stop asking the same question multiple times. If you have a follow up, use the Answer options to add to this thread.

Cat1864
Jan 22, 2012, 09:26 AM
Get rid of his phone number, delete him as a friend, and go about your own life as though he never entered into it.

Both of you need to act like mature adults instead of fifteen year olds in high school.

When you feel like there are too many differences in what you want and what the other person wants, politely tell them goodbye and wish them better luck in the future then delete any contact information you have for them. If they send you a text/message you don't agree with, delete it and leave them alone. Reacting to a message like the one you received only encourages more juvenile behavior. Better to let it go than to behave in an even more childish manner.

JudyKayTee
Jan 22, 2012, 10:49 AM
I would suggest that this is how things might go from here - he sends her a message, joking or not; she is offended; she embarrasses and "exposes" him on Facebook; he is every bit as juvenile as she is, now he's embarrassed, he responds by posting something about her. If they had sex, he posts that. If they didn't, he posts they did.

He REALLY gets ticked off and lets her family know they had sex (whether they didn't or not) in order to "expose" her.

Two children throwing sand in the playground - and OP is going to come out on the losing end of things.

If he REALLY gets angry he reports her to Immigration. This has nothing to do with Immigration but I'm ex-US Government and it happened... and happened... and happened.