Hi all,

I am 24 years old, and I still haven't had a steady BF. I've had interested guys, but either they are ten years older than me, and in a different place in their lives, or I just haven't felt the right connection. I don't know why I am so scared to try new things... I will never marry the first guy I meet without much experience. I don't know what to do. I feel like I am weird an ugly and inexperienced. I just want to be happy in a relationship. I see others getting married and having kids, and I am no where near that. What should I do, or change about the way I look at guys? I am trying to find someone perfect and its not working and it doesn't feel right. I worry about bringing them home to my parents and family, who are judgemental. I have two guys older than me, who are really sweet, and one said he wants to be with me, but I don't feel affection toward him. He's always just been a friend. Now its just awkward bw us. I'm just emotionally going through a lot and thinking too much.

Any advice?

Stop thinking so much, I have read your other posts and just because you haven't found the one yet, you will, but keep having fun with what you are doing now.

Trust me, this down cycle is but a temporary glitch.

First if you wait for perfect, you will be alone the rest of your life, no one is perfect, In fact if you found perfect, most likely you would never make it, since that would be too boring.

The differences in each other is what makes like interesting,

So it could be you are expecting too much, but I don't know , since I don't know what you are expecting.

Being ready to get married and have kids is a place in your life, if you prefer to work and go home and spend time alone, there is nothing wrong if that is what you want.

Next if parent approval is an issue, most likely they never will like the guy you like, or if they like a guy you won't like him. Many girls marry and the parents don't meet him till the day of the wedding, so unless your culture requires them to meet, let them meet but don't care what they think, it is not them that wants to be with him.

If he rides a Harley and has tattoo all over, if that makes you happy, go for it, If you like and want to be with someone 20 years older, no issue as long as you are a adult yourself.

Next you don't normally feel sexually drawn to someone ( other than looks) until you actually date for a bit.

But that is what dating is all about, you go on lots of dates with dozens of guys if you need to, and find someone that is close to what you are looking for.

I did say close, since most likely just like house hunting, or job hunting and anything, there is never one just with everything,

Just let go a bit. There is no perfect in the world.
Attraction sometimes doesn't happen till you get to know a person. When I first met my fiancé I thought he was weird and like one of my brothers (they used to hang out) then as I got older I started to get to know him, and started to like him. He is about 9 years older than I am. Weird things happen if you just let them happen. You can't search for the right guy it won't work, you can't just circle an add the paper lol. The right man will come along and you will know it.
Good luck
~Erica.