My so called ex, still lets her ex go over to her place. And he stays there till she sleeps and then he let's himself out. I trust her that on her part nothing will happen. But I feel like crap that he is still going over and sometimes I can't even send her to the lift? I have only been to her house 2-3 times and she has to make sure that no one is at home before I can go in. I know that he still likes her and they went out for about 2 years. As for us, we had this on and off thing for about 9-10months now. We were never officially together. But we still did it. We've even went overseas twice for a holiday and her birthday. I'm not sure if her family knows that they are not together anymore. They don't really share such stuff or talk much about themselves in their family.
I think that she is still not over him and leaving the door open. We had a talk about this once and she said something like she is not at fault as she didn't let him in. Her mum did. And she also said that she can bring anyone home. It's none of my business. Is it me? Am I seeing this in another light? I felt like if I brought my ex home she would feel the same way? Or am I having trust issues? To be honest, I don't trust him a single bit. What if she is asleep and he tries to kiss her or something? Well, her family is at home so they are not intimate around them. So I know that nothing will happen on her part, but I just feel so crap that he goes over. I mean if he chills at her place, there is nothing wrong with that. I'm only jealous that he can go over and I can't. But I feel that him being there sitting on the chair in her room and her door open while she sleeps is wrong? It means something on her part? Could anybody give me an insight on a girls point of view? Thank you

You are not official, just her good time buddy when its her choice. Don't know what's on her mind, but wonder how long you will think of her as YOUR girlfriend, when she is not.

And love has nothing to do with it. Like you say its off and on, part time!

It appears he is more her boyfriend than you are. He is at her house, coming and going as he likes, ( not you)

So I would say he is the boyfriend, and you are the friend of the month ( so to speak) So she could not really be your ex, or even your girlfriend at this point, since you appear to be the affair or side fun.

Sorry but have more respect for yourself.

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It doesn't sound like you had much of a relationship with her. Don't you find it odd that she has to make sure no one is at home before you go to her place? The guy stays there overnight at leaves her place in the morning. Sounds to me like she spends more time with him than you.

Really, you need to respect yourself more than this. Move on with your life and be with someone who will respect you and meet your needs as a guy and someone who will enjoy spending time with you.