My ex wife is posting a lot of lies about me on a blog. Can I charge here with slander? She is making it hard for me to publish my book and she is trying to ruin my career.

Anyone can sue, but can you win? If you can prove a) that they are lies, b) that the comments are malicious and c) that she is causing you financial damage and distress then you stand a good chance of winning.

But, unless your wife's blog is extremely popular or she is posting on a very popular one, I don't see how she is interfering with getting your book published.

Need more details about what she is writing and where and exactly how your book sales are being hurt.

I have been posting a blog and an ebook about my life as an abused child and she has set up a blog that is solely intended to trash me. She claims that I am not paying my child support, which I am and that I am a drug dealer, which I am not and that I am a huge liar, which only she is. It upsets me dearly and makes me afraid to post or sell my stories. She contacted my previous ex and caused her to sue me for a debt that had been agreed to be written off and now they have seized my house and garnished my bank account but I avoided seizure and they are not getting the money.

I am about to go back to court to appeal now that I am not homeless because of the insanity of my now ex. She would not let me into my house because she did not want me to know that she had sold off my gym and tools while I was out of town working. She used that money to go to Hawaii and I only found out from the neighbors who watched my daughter while she was gone. I was homeless and she took all of my paychecks until I could find a lawyer to help.

Now that I am working again she is mad that she can't have more of my paycheck than she is getting already. She is nuts and she needs to STOP.

Yes it is costing me money and causing me a lot of distress.

If you think you can prove damages, then hire an attorney and pursue a slander suit.

But there are often two sides to any story. If there was an agreement to cancel the debt, then the suit should have been unsuccessful. So I have to believe there is more to this.

Being afraid to sell your stories because of "her" and not being able to sell your stories because of "her" are two very different things.

I see no damages at this point.

Submit your "stories," have someone give you an affidavit that they are unwilling or unable to buy and publish them because of "her" blog... and then sue her.

Very frankly in view of your advice that another "poster" LIE to the Police and the Courts in order to evict an adult child (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/real-estate-law/how-do-we-kick-out-34-year-old-adult-child-california-no-lease-no-rent-622954.html) I find your version of your relationship with "her" to be very suspect. When you lie once to get your way you are capable of lying twice.

YOu caught me. The wife thing is about a friend of mine. I am not the husband. But it is a true story. The eviction stuff is from my own experience with police and judges and evictions. Sometimes the Phsycology used to evict is a good tool against the dysfuncion. Police and judges hate to be involved in the crazy of a family mess. They know that if they judge that the kid stays, that it may escelate into violence. They would rather issue a restraing order on a lie than see it actually happen. Wouldn't you?

YOu caught me. The wife thing is about a freind of mine. I am not the husband. But it is a true story. The eviction stuff is from my own experience with police and judges and evictions. Sometimes the Phsycology used to evict is a good tool against the dysfuncion. Police and judges hate to be involved in the crazy of a family mess. They know that if they judge that the kid stays, that it may escelate into violence. They would rather issue a restraing order on a lie than see it actually happen. Wouldn't you?

This is a serious Q&A site. We do not take kindly to playing games. There was no reason you could not have identified this situation as asking for a friend. Now your credibility has been damaged.

I was seriously looking for an answer and I was not intending to mislead anyone. Just because I put that I was the person is not the problem. It does not matter. As you said.

I am not playing games. I do know that the eviction thing is a game that tenants play and it costs landlords millions. I have been a landlord for many years and I always treat my tenants very well. I also have to put up with family insanity and LOTS of games. I am speaking from experience. I know a lot of landlords who need the law to protect the tenants from poor maintenance and lots of other things. I am not one of those. I have asked tenants to leave because their family problems were terrorising the rest of the tenants and I have not had to ask the police to help except when drug use has made it impossible to interact. Please don't get yourself all in a bunch over this. I will clean up any other inquiries or advice in the future and follow the rules exactly. Thank you for your interaction. I do appreciate it. I also got the right advice for the problem I was wondering about. Now all I need to do is help my friend find a lawyer who is up to the challenge of stopping these women from terrorizing this guy. No he is not my boyfriend.

YOu caught me. The wife thing is about a freind of mine. I am not the husband. But it is a true story. The eviction stuff is from my own experience with police and judges and evictions. Sometimes the Phsycology used to evict is a good tool against the dysfuncion. Police and judges hate to be involved in the crazy of a family mess. They know that if they judge that the kid stays, that it may escelate into violence. They would rather issue a restraing order on a lie than see it actually happen. Wouldn't you?

You asked me and so, no, I wouldn't. I've worked in the legal system too long to have any respect for people who play games. If someone thought you "deserved" something and lied so you would get it I think you would have a different take.

Once again - I have good instincts. I was pretty sure you were not being truthful.

When you post on a legal thread, keep the information correct. If you do anything less you are assisting people in circumventing the law and doing no one a service.

If someone thought you "deserved" something and lied so you would get it I think you would have a different take.

Please explain this statement.

Are you referring to the slander question or the eviction subject?

If someone thought you "deserved" something and lied so you would get it I think you would have a different take.

Please explain this statement.

Are you refering to the slander question or the eviction subject?


"We" try to limit threads to the question asked - sometimes they overlap.

I'm referring to both, actually.

If I think you deserve to be evicted, arrested, have a restraining order filed against you, no, I don't think my lies are the means to achieve that goal.

My lies would still be lies - and, in Court, perjury.

This is a legal thread - again, we don't advise circumventing the law for ANY reason.

OK Thank you. I get it. My mistake was in telling someone to lie about an assault. Right? I have actually had several police tell me that this is what a person should do to "evict" a boyfriend, couch surfer or adult child. They do not want to have to do the eviction. They get tired of being in the middle of the silly family stuff. I stand before you humbled and apologetic. Yes. Do not lie. I get it. Please forgive me.

OK Thank you. I get it. My mistake was in telling someone to lie about an assault. Right? I have actually had several police tell me that this is what a person should do to "evict" a boyfriend, couch surfer or adult child. They do not want to have to do the eviction. They get tired of being in the middle of the silly family stuff. I stand before you humbled and apologetic. Yes. Do not lie. I get it. Please forgive me.


Yes, you got it - a simple "yes, I've got it" would have been sufficient.

Sometimes the Police should stick to enforcing the law and leave the rest of the legal picture to the Attorney - but I know they don't.

No harm, no foul.

Keep on posting - your input is always welcome.

OK Thank you. I get it. My mistake was in telling someone to lie about an assault. Right? I have actually had several police tell me that this is what a person should do to "evict" a boyfriend, couch surfer or adult child. They do not want to have to do the eviction. They get tired of being in the middle of the silly family stuff. I stand before you humbled and apologetic. Yes. Do not lie. I get it. Please forgive me.

Yes, we are aware that the police do not like to get involved in civil or domestic disputes, especially civil ones. And yes the police sometimes do give advice to do things that are not legal, either to avoid having to take action or get someone out of their hair. This site tends to have more scruples about things like that.

And I will add - which christybc may not know - that I am an investigator in NY. I work a lot of accidents. The Police tell me on a regular basis that they enforce the law. They are not accident investigators. Therefore, they pretty much write down what seems important to THEM - which very often is very incorrect. They are not witnesses to the accident. They arrive after the fact... and make assumptions which I get paid to explore, explain and correct.

Pretty good for me. Not so good for the injured parties.