I'm honestly clueless with what my next step will be. I'm going to be exactly two years with my boyfriend a month from now. I have very strict parents to start with, so I've been hiding this relationship for quite a while. Eventually they found out but we still continued. Our relationship may have hope since they seem to be a bit more lenient and we will finally set a date of him confronting my mom. He will treat me and her out to dinner soon. I don't know if I'm either of these categories, in an abusive and an aspiring relationship. He is an exceptional young man, he used to be very rebellious and do all those vices, but things finally changed once we got together. We've been together practically my whole high school. But then, all my friends have been telling me to end it, but I tried listening, but my heart always won. He slapped me before because of some petty fight, and he used to hold my wrists really tight, and do other things which a boyfriend shouldn't do. But he has never punched me, of course. But he also did things which made him have a bad image with all my friends. I believe though, he is sort of the more reserved boy. He's quite eccentric actually. Incredibly intelligent, independent and handsome but socially awkward when talking to girls. But he has a good reputation with other boys. He is feared. Since we are young lovers, of course we prioritized this relationship from everything else. It's just that he believes that we should isolate ourselves from other people, and go out when we get the chance to. Go only together most of the time, especially in social events, parties etc. Since I am hiding this relationship. I've been doing this for all this time just for the sake of him. He's doing the same, gave up a lot of his bad influenced friends for me. It's been hard for me now to catch up with friends since I have to do all for him. He gets to go out more than me, and I can't. Life's so unfair, I just wish I could have more independence so once I enter the real world, I'll be prepared for the emergencies. I should finally open up to my parents soon. I used to party before, but everything did change with him too, he also helped me fix my life, and now I'm only thinking of how to escalate my opportunities in the future. I went shopping with my girlfriend yesterday, and he only wanted me to stay home so we'd bond since we couldn't go out. It's Christmas break. We haven't seen each other in a while, but I hesitated and still went out, but all I did was vent out to my girlfriend and go shopping for his gift. Now, he got even and went out partying and called me up to rub it in my face he was drunk, and he told me he'll be busy the whole week and cancel all our plans. So much for immaturity. I'm pissed because I was going to a house party the other day to vent out to my friends, and not to drink. I was already dressed up but I changed my mind to stay home to talk to him. We didn't even bond. Lol. Well, I can't sleep properly anymore because of this depression from all the things happening now. It's hard to leave him because I have to catch up with everyone and prom's coming soon. Should I work things out with him, or just finally let go, which I should've done a long time ago?

First off if you really love the guy you should tell your parents but for now don't because there is a lot of issues that you need to discuss with him. What you need to do is talk to him about how the relationship is going downhill. You should be able to go out with your friends as much as he goes out with his, and if he can't understand your needs and your needs as a couple, you need to end it before things get worse and it can get you into depression problems.If you feel he has been abusive then you should be with someone like that. You say he hasn't punched you, but what do you think a slap will lead to? He will just keep slapping you in every argument, until it leads to a punch. He shouldn't be hitting you, what kind of relationship is that were the girl gets slapped? Best opinion you will get is to leave him. I wish you the best of luck.

How old are you and where do you live, what type of culture.

Next since you did not respect your parents and were going on behind their back, don't expect them to be very understanding.