balidang
Dec 26, 2011, 09:08 PM
I hope someone can give me some advice on my issue. I broke up with my GF in August because I caught her for the last time lying to me about another guy (she did it so many times). I tried to give her another chance after breaking up after two day but then she took her chance as an opportunity to blame me for being a bad guy (because I was angry when I found her lie) and she pretended to be the dumper. Overall, it was a very nasty breakup.
I went to NC and as a part of NC I even shut down my FB account. Now on Christmas eve I sent her a Christmas greeting (text message). She replied right away saying that she didn't know the number. I replied with my name and she thanked me for that. As I was expecting no more messages from her, she did send me the second message within 10 minutes saying that she hoped I had a good holiday with family and friends. I replied with a similar message. Surprisingly, she sent me another message within a few minutes saying that it was nice to hear from me and she again mentioned that she hoped I had a lovely holiday. Again, with confusion I sent her a similar message and she ended this conversation saying thanks.
Now after this conversation, I am little confuse because I wasn't expecting even a single message or reply from her. I sent her the greeting because I still have strong feelings for her. Those were my weakest moment because when we were together I thought we would celebrate our first christams together. But after this conversation, I feel relaxed and feel like actually I am ready to move on without her. I don't know why and how my thinking got changed overnight especially considering how much bitterness I had towards her at the same time because the way she manipulated the situation to make me bad.
Does anyone know what this conversation means and what's the psychology behind feeling relaxed all of a sudden and having no bitterness towards her? Unfortunately, I don't have much experience of relationships.
I went to NC and as a part of NC I even shut down my FB account. Now on Christmas eve I sent her a Christmas greeting (text message). She replied right away saying that she didn't know the number. I replied with my name and she thanked me for that. As I was expecting no more messages from her, she did send me the second message within 10 minutes saying that she hoped I had a good holiday with family and friends. I replied with a similar message. Surprisingly, she sent me another message within a few minutes saying that it was nice to hear from me and she again mentioned that she hoped I had a lovely holiday. Again, with confusion I sent her a similar message and she ended this conversation saying thanks.
Now after this conversation, I am little confuse because I wasn't expecting even a single message or reply from her. I sent her the greeting because I still have strong feelings for her. Those were my weakest moment because when we were together I thought we would celebrate our first christams together. But after this conversation, I feel relaxed and feel like actually I am ready to move on without her. I don't know why and how my thinking got changed overnight especially considering how much bitterness I had towards her at the same time because the way she manipulated the situation to make me bad.
Does anyone know what this conversation means and what's the psychology behind feeling relaxed all of a sudden and having no bitterness towards her? Unfortunately, I don't have much experience of relationships.