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NikkiJean
Dec 12, 2011, 02:38 PM
Well What if your parents do not want to talk to this person. I mean I am 15 and he is 17. He will be 18 in Feb and I will be 16 in Oct. I love this kid and me and him don't want anything but to be with each other. What if this kid is willing to talk to my parents but they object and will not meet him and see if this is okay..

cdad
Dec 12, 2011, 02:44 PM
Well What if your parents do not want to talk to this person. I mean i am 15 and he is 17. He will be 18 in Feb and I will be 16 in Oct. I love this kid and me and him don't want anything but to be with each other. What if this kid is willing to talk to my parents but they object and will not meet him and see if this is okay..

If that is the case then wait until your older and not under your parents control. So long as your in their home no matter how old you are it is their rules. Respect them.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 12, 2011, 02:54 PM
He will be 18 and a adult in Feb. As a adult, they can order him not to be anywhere around their child. It is interference with custody for him to be with you after that point.

They are concerned either about him or about his age. So yes they can order him to stay away and keep you from seeing him.

joypulv
Dec 12, 2011, 03:24 PM
And if they even think you two are having sex they can have him arrested.
For his sake, cool it. Go out of your way to show your parents how mature you are - homework, chores, respect for the fact that they are supporting you and that they are liable for you. Parents can be charged too. (I'm sure you hear the stories about underage drinking at parties and the adults get arrested.)

ScottGem
Dec 12, 2011, 04:10 PM
Have they explained WHY they don't want you to see him?

NikkiJean
Dec 24, 2011, 11:04 AM
I have tried with all my hardest to respect their decisions. Believe me I have but I am afraid I can't take them any longer. It is not about the whole Boyfriend thing I can understand that but There are just too many things that I have been through to want to deal with them anymore I have tried talking to someone about this stuff about my problems with them and all I get is they are you parents blah blah blah I know that they are but my point is I understand a lot more things they give me credit for... that anyone gives me credit for and no one wants to understand that fact that I am a teenager and I am understanding a lot more then they want me too. Why is it so hard to understand that I am not just some teenager... that I want my respect too. I don't know what to do at this point I have took in about all I can from them. I am done...

NikkiJean
Dec 24, 2011, 11:15 AM
Basically they blame me for everything. They hate me because I am like my real father. I was going for what I wantd. But other than all that I have done evrything I have been told.

NikkiJean
Dec 24, 2011, 11:20 AM
I am 15 years old. I have looked into this whole law thing for emancipation. It says that I need to be at least 16 years of age. I need to be in school, have a job, and be paying bills. It also said that I could live with a guardian or a friend as long as I have a note or letter saying that it is okay. I just can't put up with my parents. I want to live with my real dad. The situation is my mom keeps telling every one that I have moved out. But I haven't Saying this to people just makes me want to move out even more. What do I do?

ScottGem
Dec 24, 2011, 11:53 AM
First, I wish I had a dollar for every teen that says they know more or have been through more than the average teen. That isn't meant to belittle you but it is very typical.

You want us to understand and maybe help then you need to tell us more. So you don't live with your real father. That's all we know. Help us understand you so we can help.

joypulv
Dec 24, 2011, 03:13 PM
You asked this under Law and got correct answers regarding the law and his age and your age.
I think many older people here understand a lot more than it sounds like we do, (having been teenagers once and blah blah), but if you want to talk about your bio father and your parents' lack of understanding, ask again under another forum.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 24, 2011, 04:02 PM
So under the law, if your parents do not want or allow him to be with you he will end up in jail if you disobey them.

And I agree every teen thinks they are more mature than average teens.

NikkiJean
Dec 25, 2011, 09:52 AM
See that is the thing I repsect all of your answers and advice, But I am mature. I have been through a lot. Maybe more then others maybe less then others. I don't know how to explain this but I guess thanks for what you could give me.

ScottGem
Dec 25, 2011, 01:03 PM
See that is the thing, maturity is RARELY something you can judge yourself. It is something that others judge YOU on. In fact, the more you insist that you are mature, the less the likelihood that you are.

So, as has been advised, start a thread (maybe in the Teens forum) and tell us more about the situation you are in.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 25, 2011, 01:16 PM
And at times, there is nothing to discuss, my son wanted to play in the street, but that was not safe and no discuss would have had any effect and merely made things worst with temper and anger at times. So the answer was no,

So if they do not wish to discuss it, what good would forcing a discussion do, make them mad, make it harder to talk about things latter.

Talk about is another phase to mean you want them to change their choice. The fact they have said NO, appears their has been some discussion and they said no.

What you really want is not more discussion, if they will still say no, you want them to say yes.

Noblity54
Dec 31, 2011, 12:30 PM
Moving out when you are that young is quite an endeavor. But if you see the need you
Need to keep these things in mind.
1. Stay in school
2. Keep out of trouble no drugs alchool anything (being arrested will send you home)
3. Play it safe

ScottGem
Dec 31, 2011, 12:57 PM
I've merged your threads, but moved it to the Teens forum.