chettee
Dec 21, 2011, 09:41 AM
Myself and my boyfriend broke up 6 weeks ago, now we had only been together 11 weeks so I know some of you will think I'm nuts! But that 11 weeks were the most perfect I have had, we feel head over heels for each other and were joined at the hip! And yes I know that is usually what happens in 1st few months of any relationship but of course we both thought and told each other that this was it... marriage, house etc!
So the story goes like this, we had a bit of a falling out because he wouldn't attend a family christening with me, so I had a go at him, and he then in turn did not speak to me or reply to my texts for almost one week. We kissed and made up but looking back now I kind of felt I was walking on eggshells with him as he had thrown such a strop over christening.
We went out for dinner soon after and we were having a general chat about steaks (yes, steaks!), he didn't agree with what I was saying so I just said, sure we don't/won't agree on everything in life. At this point he looks at me and says "..I am not speaking to you the rest of tonight because nothing I say is right according to you", and he didn't speak to me the rest of that night.
I left next morning and he text to say I had ruined last night and that I was extremely difficult! He told me he needed time to think about things as he was extremely angry. I told him he could have as much time as he wanted as I wasn't putting up with his moods over petty things.
Now, 6 weeks on I can't believe how much I miss him and am totally devastated. We haven't nor will we be in touch. There has been no closure over this and I guess that is what is killing me. I know deep down that it's probably for the best as he obviously a bit of a control freak and that only started to rear its ugly head weeks in. But I also can't help thinking maybe it was me! Has anyone else experienced this and how the hell do I move on?
By the way I consider myself a normal, 30 something woman and never came across this in a relationship before!
So the story goes like this, we had a bit of a falling out because he wouldn't attend a family christening with me, so I had a go at him, and he then in turn did not speak to me or reply to my texts for almost one week. We kissed and made up but looking back now I kind of felt I was walking on eggshells with him as he had thrown such a strop over christening.
We went out for dinner soon after and we were having a general chat about steaks (yes, steaks!), he didn't agree with what I was saying so I just said, sure we don't/won't agree on everything in life. At this point he looks at me and says "..I am not speaking to you the rest of tonight because nothing I say is right according to you", and he didn't speak to me the rest of that night.
I left next morning and he text to say I had ruined last night and that I was extremely difficult! He told me he needed time to think about things as he was extremely angry. I told him he could have as much time as he wanted as I wasn't putting up with his moods over petty things.
Now, 6 weeks on I can't believe how much I miss him and am totally devastated. We haven't nor will we be in touch. There has been no closure over this and I guess that is what is killing me. I know deep down that it's probably for the best as he obviously a bit of a control freak and that only started to rear its ugly head weeks in. But I also can't help thinking maybe it was me! Has anyone else experienced this and how the hell do I move on?
By the way I consider myself a normal, 30 something woman and never came across this in a relationship before!