I love my boyfriend, and my best friend. My boyfriend and I have been in a long term relationship, he's very funny, he makes me feel safe, he is very careful not to get me mad at him which is VERY hard to do and on many other things too, and a lot more. Yes he is weird, but in his own way. But the thing I like most about him is that he is VERY protective. I don't know why but when he is, he kind of makes my heart jump and me turn red all the time. He also NEVER hits me either or yells at me, but he has very serous looks sometimes, and I don't know why but that kind of makes me feel odd and a little scared but I'm just plain weird, I know he won't hurt me. I have known my friend about 1 and half years.

When I have first met my boyfriend, my friend had no interest in him until I had told her that I liked him. Then she said she liked him and tried to date him and I don't know that kind of pissed me off. (many of her other friends are now my friends and they say she did the same thing to them, which for some odd reason I totally believe.) and not only that, she likes to play with guys heads and she has them think she likes them and they are dating when they aren't, and that's just wrong. (I have tried to tell her that its not right then she denies it and all. And I try to help her, the best I can and a lot more stuff.) And she tried to do that with my boyfriend in the beginning. �)

But I don't want to be the jealous type. I admit that my boyfriend and I are very clingy to each other and he doesn't mind nether do I. My friend and boyfriend and I had made days were we can hang. I hang with her on Friday and week days and him on Saturday and possibly Sunday. Which is sooooooo unfair, because when I'm with him on Saturday she always calls and is like can she came over for a few minutes I need to talk to her or I have something for her. She always changes things and I'm sick of it. And when she is with us she is like you better not be hanging on him, and he gets mad at her for saying it because then I try not to and I try to pay attention to her so she don't get mad and him so he doesn't get mad earthier but then when I talk to him, give him a small hug or kiss she gives me a evil look. The odd thing is, is that she can do it when she has a boyfriend and I can't. (ok, and I kind of give him hickeys and he gives me them but little one and in places where its not visible, and she get so mad sometimes it looks like she is going to explode. But she is cool with it on herself and her boyfriend.? ) She has helped me further my relationship a lot. (which we could do that on our own.)

Awhile ago she was so mad that she said that she would tell my parents that him and I were messing around. (Which had scared me so much that I had told them myself and my friend is not aware of it. Which they are cool with it, so my boyfriend can't get in trouble.) Even before she has said that, she knew about it and that scared me, because a lot of what people had said she had told other people there secrets and a lot of other stuff that she wasn't suppose to say, they had told me to be careful. (which was true too, I just found that out not to long ago.) She is like a sister to me and I don't want to lose her. And I DON'T want to lose him. Every time I think of losing him, I start to cry and then shake. When I think of losing him that night I have nightmares of losing him, so most likely tonight I will get a nightmare. I love him and I can't even tell you how much. But with all of this stuff and arguing going on, I don't know what I should do. I just wish it all went away. But If I have to choose, I WILL choose him. It would suck butt but I have no choice, I love him way too much.

Yes I may not know what I am doing some times but I no for a fact that I love him and he loves me. He texts me, when I don't text him, he says he loves me constantly, he makes sure I get home safe, he doesn't want me to smoke, do drugs or even drink. If I do, do anything like that he will try and talk me out of it or if he can't he will go with me to make sure I'm OK. I want to know what to do so I can may the decisions that I need to. Every time they argue it scares the living hell out of me, I mean just raising there voice a little and stomping off is fighting to me because that's what I grew up with, so that's my definition although I know its not, but when they disagree about who gets who and when that's what is sounds like to me. They are family but they need to stop, its literally making me sick. (When my mom and I get really stressed out or something bad is happening we get so worried about it without realizing or what ever, we get sick. Like flu sick, almost sick enough to be in the hospital) I want it to stop, its like she HAS to be with me 24/7 and I'm tired of it, I mean I have nothing to be afraid of because now my parents know and yeah I don't know.

But she is driving him and me insane mainly me though. What do I doooooo!! I love him and I don't want to lose him but what do I do about my friend?

You do not need her in your life, my best friend from kindergarten up to high school was always there for me, but she turned out to be my enemy. Were no longer friends. Sweetie, keep him, HE is YOUR best friend obviously. Not her.. get rid of her or don't ask these questions.

You need to dump your boyfriend then too. You're being totally unfair to him. Have you told him that you like someone else like that? That is just horrible if you're keeping it from him..

Imnot cheating and I don't like anyone else, I love him with everything I got. My problem is between my friend which is a girl and my boyfriend and me which I'm a girl. (letdown)
Thanks anitatibbs1971 is there anything else I can do to I mean that's a very good idea...

You and your friend have to set some boundaries, or rules of good behavior, like NO visiting when the boyfriend is there or coming over. That would be a start and if she were a real friend, she would respect those boundaries and understand her behavior makes you sick.

If she doesn't, then that's her problem, and she wouldn't be a real friend. Real friends don't threaten to tell secrets, or cause trouble, so maybe you have to stop letting her do these things around you.

Yes, distance yourself from her forawhile. Sit down and tell her, she needs to be a real friend to stay in your life or she can leave. Honestly hun, id give her the boot if you and him are feeling that way. Love is your friend ship. Promise!

Thanks guys that helps but do you guys have any ideas on how to do that with out pissing her off or hurting her toooo much, I mean I no its going to hurt her and get her mad but is there anyway I should do it, so I don't because too much trouble. And you your right if she was she would understand. Thanks guys a lot.

I rather like the straight honest approach myself. But you can accomplish the same thing by learning how to say NO, when she wants to make plans that you don't agree with. You just have to stick to your guns when you say it.

Thanks guys so much for your help if you guys have anything else for me ijust keep commenting n if you want I can keep you up dated

Of course we want to hear of your progress. Tell us whether the suggestions work, or not.

OK I will

Tell her in person, Never on the phone, email etc.
Just say you can't be friends anymore, there's too much on your sholders and
When you get stuff figured out, then you guys can talk until then you need to be left alone.
-Works every time! Nobodys hurt, everyone moves on.

We are OK we had put boundgeries. My boyfriend and I cool. Hehe she has calmed down we all have. Her and I r still friends and all but w.e we are still working at it a little. You I don't know thanks guys for all your help I appreciate it a lot thanks again. :)