Okay, so I was going out with this guy for about two months, and he made me feel amazing! We didn't argue, but he had a bit of a rep as a guy who'd go out with anyone. He had like loads of girlfriends, yet he was my first. I came back from school, and out of the blue I got a text off him dumping me! Thing is, I can't get him out of my head, and seeing him at school everyday don't help!

Asker (aged) 33,

Firstly, welcome to this great site!

O... so sad! Still, do not worry, the world is big and vast, large and lengthy. There are many more, who can fill the space. Do not be sad.

Still, still... if you want to attract him, tempt him. Have a new, fresh and dashing haircut, which will attract him. Tempt him with revealing garments, like wear sleeveless, but remember to shave off the underarms. I hope he will come to you saying, "hey, dear, I love you!"

Thank you! I don't want him back, if he can't even tell me to my face that he doesn't want to go out with me anymore, then frankly he's not worth it. But I still feel sad, so thank you x

Asker (aged) 33,

Firstly, welcome to this great site!

O...so sad! Still, do not worry, the world is big and vast, large and lengthy. There are many more, who can fill the space. Do not be sad.

Still, still...if you wanna attract him, tempt him. Have a new, fresh and dashing haircut, which will attract him. Tempt him with revealing garments, like wear sleeveless, but remember to shave off the underarms. I hope he will come to you saying, "hey, dear, I love you!"


I keep asking and you don't respond - I don't understand the "tempt him with revealing garments ... sleeveless" causing ANYONE to fall in love with anyone else. If the OP is looking for some quick, meaningless sex, yes, revealing clothing MIGHT do the trick BUT you are giving this advice to teens.

I think this is bad advice. She is looking for a relationship, not someone she "tempts" into "falling in love."

I have agreed with and enjoyed many of your posts - but I am finding more and more answers where you don't seem to know where the line is between sex and love. I realize you are not in the US - and I am - but the standards can't be that different!

I keep asking and you don't respond
Where (did you ask me)? I did not find any of your question anywhere!


If the OP is looking for some quick, meaningless sex, yes, revealing clothing MIGHT do the trick BUT you are giving this advice to teens. I think its bad.
Who said they are teens? There is no indication that they are ones. Going to school does not make someone teen. Teachers too go to schoo. Secondly, I did not talk about sex.
Confusing the physics of sex with the chemistry of love, you are forgetting that by and large, love blossoms out of temptation, (and, temptation is not always SEX or sexual feeling) and not vice versa, as most of the (fictional) literature suggests. I agree with you that
I realize you are not in the US - and I am - but the standards can't be that different! but, laws of love and sex are same everywhere... temptation leads to sex, for which love is often an excuse. Still, there are true loves, too - only few and far between.

I am a schoolgirl :) I am 13 x

Both of you have helped, and I would really love it if you could find some time to answer my other post :) please don't judge me, it has been 3 months :) thank you x

Where (did you ask me)? I did not find any of your question anywhere!


Who said they are teens? There is no indication that they are ones. Going to school does not make someone teen. Teachers too go to schoo. Secondly, I did not talk about sex.
Confusing the physics of sex with the chemistry of love, you are forgetting that by and large, love blossoms out of temptation, (and, temptation is not always SEX or sexual feeling) and not vice versa, as most of the (fictional) literature suggests. I agree with you that but, laws of love and sex are same everywhere....temptation leads to sex, for which love is often an excuse. Still, there are true loves, too - only few and far between.


Well, for starters it's posted in the "teen" category - your advice is irresponsible.

And your other "wear a sleeveless garment and be sure to shave your armpits" is in a thread about a couple not having sex - his choice.

I'm sorry, but I don't believe love "blossoms" out of temptation. I think there is sex and there is love - easy to get the two confused, but I think there is a difference. I am not "forgetting" anything - I simply don't think in the same terms you do.

Found the other thread which contains the "wear a sleeveless garment and shave your underarms" - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/boyfriend-doesnt-initiate-sex-intimacy-620496.html

Pleeaasse do my other thread xx

Pleeaasse do my other thread xx


Which other thread? I show this is your only question. Point me in the right direction, please!

Oops I think it was removed :( I'll edit it and put it back up! Wait, can u do that :)? X

Oops I think it was removed :( I'll edit it and put it back up! Wait, can u do that :)? X

Sorry accidental double post x

Hi I have to step in here.

Mr Kay likes to question advice which is a great thing
It can be annoying when it's directed at your own advice

But I would have to agree with him a 100 and 10%

This advice kahani is just awful!
You are telling a young girl!
To tease and temp a man into being with her when he is a very well known player.

I don't know what reality you live in.
But it's rather shocking and upsetting you would tell a young teenager to do this.