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asdf12
Dec 19, 2011, 05:17 AM
I'm an indian house wife we both love each other but he says no sex how do I make him attracted to sex
Kahani Punjab
Dec 19, 2011, 05:46 AM
ASDF12,
Firstly, welcome to this beautiful site!
You can excite him somehow, by caressing him, by touching his genitals or by kissing him. Be with him, wrestle naked. Wear scanty garments and be before him. Get a new, dashing haircut and be before him. He will definitely get excited and will cling to you, and will not leave you until and unless he squeeze you absolutely. And, still if it fails, talk to him. Get him to some sexologist (sex specialist).
I hope it helps.
smoothy
Dec 19, 2011, 03:27 PM
How old is he? Age can make a BIG difference.
Cat1864
Dec 20, 2011, 11:32 AM
Has he given you any reasons for why he doesn't want sex? Have you asked him?
Communications are extremely important in a relationship. Try talking to him and finding out what he is thinking and feeling.
It may have nothing to do with how much he loves you or wants you. He could be tired, stressed, worried, dealing with medical issues, scared about performance or pregnancy, and the list goes on. Only by talking with him (at a time when you aren't expecting sex and not in the bedroom) can you learn what his needs are and share yours. See how you can work together to improve the relationship.
I don't recommend trying to get him in the mood because it can cause more pressure and drive your partner farther away. Pressure can act like a wedge making existing problems/issues even worse.
Do show him affection and intimacy in non-sexual ways. Show him that he can relax with you without feeling like relaxing is going to lead to pressure to perform.
Communicate with him.