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thomas200
Dec 16, 2011, 05:47 PM
Me and my girlfriend have bin going out for 4 years. I'm 24 have a good job with lots of room for advancement. I have a 34 year old beautiful girlfriend that has an awesome 7 year old son that I love so mutch. I never have look at age as a factor cause I feel you can't. Its where uour hart is. Our maturity fits. After helping my mom raise my brother and sisters. I had grown up a little faster than my group.But some times I do admit that my head can be 24. That's why I'm asking this.
My drinking is causing a lot of problems in my life. It has cause a lot of problems, In a drunken rage I've hit my girlfriend, I've got 2 DUI's, and I've been wrecked cars. Now we've still drank together and like there's nothing rong. I've apologized profusely to here and have never touched her that may again. Only to restraining here from hiting me In a druckin rage. Now that was all in the past I've hit bottom I don't want to do this any more I'm done.
I've been going to meetings for 4 weeks now and I screwed up once but I want back. Last night me and my girlfriend had a fight I told here I was Quitting and that I've bin going out to meetings. She was upset they told uour after this 4 weeks but I needed the time to sort my head out. And ant the time I new there would be some kind of conflict I wouldn't be able to deal with at the moment. I told hear my reasons for this decision. Not like she could a look better pass in figured it out. But also I love this girl with all my heart and I want to be the best for here and her son. I don't want to be a man coming home from the bar 3 in the morning. And sleeping through the day and the kids having do everything themselves to get daddy's too drunk to make them breakfast. Now mind you I made this decision on my own. Theses thoughts and fears of mine. Now now she all upset and scared for her son. And today she sent me a Attached blog from this sight of someone heaving a problem with there boyfriend that is still drinking and trying to beat drug test from court issued. With a text after saying take a look at other peoples experiences and answers so you can understand my feelings are normal. But that blog had all people saying bad **** about there boyfriends still drinking. I was confused and insulted and pissed by that. I chose myself I'm going to do this. Shouldn't this help ease her worries? Shouldn't this show her how mutch I care for her? I no this is long but if you read thanks and would like to bounce this off you guys. Women's point of view would really help. Cause you guys confuse me. Lol no any one.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 16, 2011, 09:19 PM
Ask her does that mean she has no faith in your ability to quit? Ask her if she would rather be married to a drunk?

I ask this because she may ? If she drinks and most of your social actiities are around drinking, often when one partner really quits, the relationship is effected.

Silly as it sounds, some women or men are attracted to the bad things a person does.

Not that you should not stop drinking anyway

thomas200
Dec 18, 2011, 11:05 AM
I don't understand her fears. Why now when I'm actually stoping.