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Jade12
Dec 14, 2011, 08:31 AM
Hi I am 15 years old and my boyfriend is 19. We live in wa. I am pregnant n I am so scared. I am on the because pill but it didn't work! Can my boyfriend go to jail? And how long for? Is there anyway he can't go to jail? Please help me. I need it!

Jade12
Dec 14, 2011, 08:32 AM
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LearningAsIGo
Dec 14, 2011, 08:33 AM
How far along are you? Have you been to the doctor and are your parents aware?

He can go to jail, I suppose, depending on state laws. It doesn't mean he will however.

kcomissiong
Dec 14, 2011, 09:02 AM
Thishttp://www.age-of-consent.info/states/Washington site has some great information. The age of consent in the state of Washington is 16, and from reading the information I provided, he can be prosecuted and found guilty of third degree rape of a child. A DA will have all of the evidence they need in the DNA of your child. Additionally, your parents could try and have him prosecuted for custodial interference. This is a very serious situation.

Sorry to be harsh, but you made a very adult decision to have sex at the age of 15. You have to deal with the consequences that go along with it in an equally adult manner. This includes seeking medical care, telling your parents that you are pregnant, and seeking their help in whatever decision that you make regarding the child. He also made a decision to have sex with a minor, who is also under the age of consent for your state. He has to deal with the consequences of this as well, which may very well include prosecution, jail time, and registering as a sex offender.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 14, 2011, 09:50 AM
I will agree, and perhaps sound harsh, too late to be scared, you decided like many on here that you were mature, you were responsible, that you were grown up and knew you were ready. So this is what happens when you have sex. No form of birth control is 100 percent, some get pregnant using birth control pills and condoms.

So now you have to get ready to be a mother. Perhaps your parents won't press charges and your boyfriend will not go to prison for several years. But is he standing by you, when he has to work and pay child support, when he can not run with his friends as much and is suppose to do things with the baby, willl he still be there?

If you have not told your parents, do so, and then start visiting the doctor.

Jade12
Dec 15, 2011, 12:57 AM
Im only 2 weeks along. Yeah that is true and I can't take it back now. So if my parents don't press charges he can't go to jail? Is it all up to whether my Parents press charges or not?

Jade12
Dec 15, 2011, 12:58 AM
I haven't been to a doctor and no my parents would kill me! They know I'm having sex though

J_9
Dec 15, 2011, 01:21 AM
You NEED to get to a doctor. Proper prenatal care is vital to a healthy baby and mother.

Jade12
Dec 15, 2011, 01:51 AM
So I can go to the doctors but they can't tell anyone that I'm pregnant right? Can they tell the police or my parents?

Jade12
Dec 16, 2011, 07:44 AM
I'm getting a abortion

J_9
Dec 16, 2011, 07:49 AM
No, a doctor cannot tell your parents or the police. However, I'm not sure whether you will need parental consent to have an abortion in your state at your age.

Jade12
Dec 16, 2011, 08:18 AM
Please keeping talking to me. I'm scared. Are you 100% sure they can't? I'm going to the doctors tomorrow but I need to get my mums Medicare card will she be able to see if I use it? I think I do need it, I want you to know Im getting an abortion because it's a better choice for the baby. I can't raise it and my boyfriend won't stand by me the whole time specially if he goes to jail.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 16, 2011, 12:57 PM
You can not legally get an abortion without your parents signing for you since you are a minor.

Go talk to your parents.

Jade12
Dec 16, 2011, 04:45 PM
Do my parents have to sign or can other people sign?

ScottGem
Dec 16, 2011, 05:28 PM
First we need to know approximately where you are. We can't know the laws that apply until we do.

J_9
Dec 16, 2011, 06:23 PM
First we need to know approximately where you are. We can't know the laws that apply until we do.

According to her first post she is in Washington State.

ScottGem
Dec 16, 2011, 06:56 PM
Ok, In Wa you don't need to get parental permission or notify your parents.

However, your boyfriend does appear to be guilty of statutory rape. Whether he will be reported or prosecuted I can't tell. But you need to stop the sex NOW!

J_9
Dec 16, 2011, 07:15 PM
If you use your mother's medicare card, and there is a co-pay, your mother WILL find out.

I know it's hard and very scary at your age, but you NEED to discuss this with your mother.

Jade12
Dec 16, 2011, 07:52 PM
No I'm from Australia, wa is western Australia.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 16, 2011, 08:41 PM
Western Australia requires parent notification for an abortion.
It also has more restrictions on reasons to get an abortion. You and a parent will have to prove a need,not just a desire.

Also sorry but death is not really a "better option" for a child, adoption would be since the child would live.

This is not something you can do on your own, you have to discuss this with your parents.

ScottGem
Dec 17, 2011, 06:30 AM
You are under the age of consent anywhere in Australia
Age of consent laws - Resource Sheet - National Child Protection Clearinghouse (http://www.aifs.gov.au/nch/pubs/sheets/rs16/rs16.html)

Also there is no close in age defense since he is 4 years older.

Whether your doctor will be required to report this, is unclear, but you will need your parent's permission for the abortion, if its allowed at all.

I'm sorry, this is not what you wanted to hear, but these are the facts. You made the choice to engage in this behavior and now you, your boyfriend and the child will have to deal with the consequences.

Jade12
Dec 18, 2011, 08:55 AM
So we will only get in trouble well my boyfriend will if the doctors choose to report it? So they can choose to report it or just not tell anyone?

Fr_Chuck
Dec 18, 2011, 09:00 AM
Since your parent will be with you, and have to sign for you, I doubt the doctor will report anything.

ScottGem
Dec 18, 2011, 09:02 AM
So we will only get in trouble well my boyfriend will if the doctors choose to report it? So they can choose to report it or just not tell anyone?

I don't know. I couldn't find any law or rules that require the doctor or hospital to report it. That doesn't mean they don't exist. Many places will require that an underage pregnancy be reported so that legalities can be dealt with.

And you really have no choice in the matter. You NEED to be under a doctor's care to ensure a healthy birth, or even if you do try for an abortion it needs to be done by a doctor. So if the doctor is required to report it they will.