(THIS IS SO LONG I'M SORRY BUT I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE ADVICE) Okay.

I definitely am concerned about asking people who don't know the full story about this, but it's always on my mind. So please, bear with me. Last year, I joined this cool website called last.fm where you can connect your itunes to a profile and see other users, find out who has similar tastes in music to you. I was looking at one of my favorite band's pictures and saw a cute guy had commented on it, turns out we had "Super music compatibility" so I added him and starting a comment conversation with him saying how I loved the music in his charts! We started talking and we have so much in common! He saw I was from Chicago (he's from NJ) and told me that he was buying tickets for Pitchfork, a big festival in July. I was planning on going too already, and after that we talked for months and months about random stuff!

And then after I got back from my vacation (A day before Pitchfork), I see an inbox message from him with his phone number saying that we should hang out while he's in Chicago! (Now, this really wasn't a sketchy meet up, there were 2,000 people and I was with friends). So I texted him all that day and we finally met up! What a crazy thing right? To actually meet someone from online? But anyway... My friends told me it was so obvious that we had a connection and he had even invited me to hang out with him the next day but alas... I couldn't. What a regret. BUT.. He said "It was a really fun night, I'm so glad I met you! We should def stay in touch! I would love to come back next year :)" And we have been texting ever since up to about 3 weeks ago no reply since then... I noticed that the conversations seemed to be getting a bit shorter, but honestly I have no idea if he's busy or whatever or anything! He had been so flirty for so long, always initiating conversation, he even made a skype to talk to me, it started to seem certain that we would see each other again. He even said, "I wish we could have spent another day together".

Once he didn't text me for 4 weeks and I assumed he a) had a girlfriend or b) forgot about me. Turns out he had got a new phone and he said he "Hope you're doing well, I missed talking to you!" But now... I feel like he's lost interest or maybe found someone else. I want to make this work because I feel like if we saw each other again we could have something special, but honestly, the distance and uncertainty makes it impossible. I really care, and I know it may seem silly on the outside, but honestly I haven't felt this kind of connection with someone before. WHAT DO I DO??

I wouldn't stress about it.

What's cool is that you met. Im a rock n roller. From way back.

Sometimes that's what you get, Be glad.

On to the next gig.

Call him and tell him the truth. Tell him you felt a connection and that you'd like to see if there can be anything to come out of this. Hopefully he'll be honest with you and tell you what he thinks. Either he has a girlfriend or has started seeing someone or may just think that a long-distance relationship is too much effort. Some people do, some don't. He may even have no idea how you feel, thinking that you are just being friendly, because no where in your letter do you mention that he was told how you felt.

If you do decide to call, you may want to tell him subtly and not be too direct at first. Don't lie, of course, but maybe just mention that he's been on your mind and you really enjoyed speaking to him and would like to get to know him better. If he gives you a positive reaction, take it from there and if not, then at least you tried and can move on without wondering 'what if'.

There's nothing better, at least in my opinion, than being straight forward and honest with others. If they feel the same way about you, great, more can be achieved, and if not, then so be it and both can move on.

I hope you get your wish or the closure you need. Keep smiling and enjoying the music. :)

Thrilling story, but lets keep it real, he is a stranger you don't know anything about, and he doesn't seem like a LDR type.

It's a great fantasy come true, meeting up and all, but he does have his own life and seemed to NOT be pursuing you so I think you keep it real with your on line, long distance music buddy.

Don't chase this dude, or get to carried away by feelings for him until you know a lot more details of his life, and character, or background. That wouldn't be wise.

You don't know him well enough to make those kinds of opinions yet

I'm all for online hook ups! One of my friends is getting married to a girl he met while playing world of Warcraft
So finding someone with the same interest is important.

I would not invest too much into this I mean 4 weeks no contact? If you really liked someone you would nor go that long without talking to them


I hope you move o from this
And all the best. :)