I've never asked something like this online before, but after searching for a long time and looking at different questions that relate to mine but can't give me the answer I am looking for, I've decided to give it a shot at asking for advice from an unbiased perspective.

I'm a 23 year old guy and I've been with a girl ('Girl A') for 18 months. The past two major relationships I've had I fall head over heels with the girl, she messes me about at the 6 month mark (starts feeling grass is greener and everything) and then comes back and ends up loving me but I've lost the feeling. This happened at the 12 month mark with Girl A, but instead of dumping her I've stuck with her and I don't know why. She does mean a lot to me though.

So, I feel that the head over heels feeling disappeared when she messed me about - Girl A has apologized profusely saying she was stressed with work at the time and wishes she could go back and not do that 8 months ago. But I still care about her and that's why I'm still with her.

So, I meet another girl 'Girl B' who is a friend of a friend's girlfriend. We get on well, I don't pursue anything because she has a boyfriend, (and also I have a girlfriend), said boyfriend treats her like crap and they break up and I'm the guy who makes her feel better and now she wants me.

Girl A is young, attached to me, funny, very intelligent and cute. However, she isn't romantic or confident in relationship abilities like romance or initiating sweet things. In fact, she bought me a first ever meaningful present last week (a little cute plushie), and I know she's trying really hard. Also, being my girlfriend we have the little arguments sometimes. We only have video games and morals in common, but we do have all the cute in-jokes, nicknames and things like that.

Girl B is a year or two older, quieter and doesn't make me laugh as much and there seems to be a lot of drama in her life (massive long 3-5 hour thinking sessions when we talk about how we like each other and what to do for example). However she's beautiful (I'm not narrow minded so this isn't a major point but she is), smart, romantic (what I want), slightly more confident and outgoing and we have a lot in common like music, morals etc. She has more guy friends. But the drama thing is there and it's HUGE. All her friends would believe that she had cheated on her ex (in her friend group) if she went out with me, because he had suspicions that she liked me even though she insists it's only recently when I've been there for her that these feelings have developed.

Whenever I go out with friends, I find myself checking girls out and feel bad about it. At the end of the day I always go running back to Girl A though because I care about her, but now Girl B is in the picture and she's got the romance stuff that I want. They are both lovely people and I care about both. Is this the dreaded 'grass is greener' syndrome?

So now, after hugging Girl B and hanging around with her, my mind has switched yet again and I feel like I want to go running back to Girl A. I've turned down a lot of good looking girls for my girlfriend in the past, because I care about her so much and want her. But the lack of romance I feel is being made up by Girl B and that's why I'm drawn towards her.

Sometimes I'll walk down the street and look up at the stars and think, Hey I want Girl B here with me right now. But then when that's gone I just want my Girl A with me.

I'm sure there's loads I've missed out but FML, I think these are the major points. I'm at the choice point now, I have to make a decision.

Your first mistake my friend was not being honest with girl A, and emotionally cheating on her with girl B.

Leave girl B alone, completely, and resolve the issues with girl A, without the temptations and distractions of girl B. Resolve your commitment before you explore other options. Anything less is cheating, plain, and simple.

Honesty ain't easy sometimes, especially where feelings are concerned, and we may not be able to control what feelings we have, but we can damn sure control what we do about them.

It appears you have been giving into those feelings, and have started to cross the lines of good behavior. CORRECTION, you HAVE crossed the lines of good behavior.

Get back on the right side, and do the right thing, which may NOT be the easy thing.

@talianiman

Thank you for your advice, and it has very much been taken on board.

It is likely, thinking now, that the distraction caused by Girl B could have been causing me to have more doubts about my relationship with Girl A than were really necessary.

I think I needed that. I'm going to go and do the right thing.