I'm 15 and trying to move out of a home that is unwelcome for me. I need to get out. How can I do this without any trouble and dealing with the court? I don't want to hurt my dad, but I can't take this any more. I need help!

He trats me good and understands me more then any one and I still don't know

I would love to live with my boyfriend but I am 15 and I don't think I can ? Can I?
I would love to know how can I live my life the way I want to?
Or do I have to get nocked up to be kick out to live with my boyfriend?

It's possible, but love is quite difficult to determine. How do you feel about him? How long have you been together, if you are? What does he do for you? Can you genuinely see yourself being together forever?

X Dani

If your dad has custody of you, there is nothing you can do. If there is another parent they may go to court and file for custody. Besides that, there is nothing you can do.

Sounds like dad may be interfering in your love life. That is not going to be a good reason to get out of the house.

You come across as pretty immature, even for a 15 yr old. You need to do some growing up before you can get out of the house. You will need to wait at least 3 more years.

Were threads merged or changed? My reply is completely irrelevant but I responded to a question asking if they were in love with someone

If I am so immaature then why do I know more then a 15 should. I had to take care of a 2 year old and myself before because my mother was never there I am 15 going on 20 thanl you

Can a grand parent have custody of me??

What you want is not possible without involving a court hearing.

A grandparent would have to force your parents to give up custody to them, involving child protective services and a court hearing. There is no way to determine if the outcome would be good for you. It would be possible that you would be taken away from your family entirely.

Emancipation, in your state, is a possibility, but it again involves a court hearing. Here is California's requirements.

http://www.saccourt.ca.gov/family/emancipation.aspx

At your age it is pretty common and in fact natural to be having conflicts with your parents. I suggest speaking to your school counselor or the grandparent you are closest to, to help mediate your problems.

Do not get pregnant. It is not a means of escape from your situation and would be extremely unwise, only generating more problems for you and placing a child in a bad environment which you already want out of.

If your grandparents are willing to take custody of you, and your father agrees than yes, they can become your legal guardian.

So, why don't you want to live with your dad anymore? It's really hard living on your own. Bills, job, school it's all a lot of work, even for most adults. Adding a baby to that mix just makes it 100x harder.

A lot of kids don't understand there is a lot more to living on your own then being able to stay up late and do what you want . Bills and reality get in the way of doing what you want to do. You will never be as free as you are now living for free at home with a parent. No one wants to struggle in life and with out an education, there is not much else out there but struggles. I know things seem hard now. 15 is a hard age. It's like being stuck between a young teen and a young adult. People still treat you like a kid but are constantly being told to grow up and act mature. It must have been hard for you raising a 2 year old and not having your mother around. No kid should have to go through that at such a young age.

I am happy to see you posted on another thread that you are on birth control. That's a very mature decision, as much as I would NEVER condone a 15 year old having sex, it's better to be safe than sorry. Raising a kid on your own is really hard work. You wouldn't want to raise your kid in poverty, and you want them to have the best start in life. You should know this especially if you had it hard growing up. Parenthood can wait.

I think the big question here is why is your home life so bad that you need out so badly?

can a grand parent have custody of me???

Yes, if the circumstances call for it. You haven't shown any circumstances that call for it.

As far as your showing immaturity, I think you just proved my point if you were the one who gave me the Unhelpful rating. Just because you didn't want to hear what I had to say is no reason to do so. We are honest here and tell the truth. The fact is you talk about living life like you want, but you give no indication that your father mistreats you. That is a sign of immaturity.

And If I had a dollar for every teen who tells us they know more than most teens I'd be very rich. The reality is you know a lot less than you think you do. Many teens have had to take care of younger siblings. You may be mature in someways, but not in others. And that immaturity does come across in your posts.

I note that you still haven't explained why you want to be on your own. I suspect that is because it will make you appear more immature.

The reason I want to move out is because my dad's girlfriend. She is always trying to make me change in to someone I am not I hate it so much no matter what I do I can't get them to be proued of me, I cry all the time I can't see my mom , not like I want to any way, I am traped in the house, I'm never aloud to leave unless its school. Tasha is diving me crazy and I can't stand it anymore I'm falling school because of her and I can't do that like hell I'm only in grade 9 and I am 15 I can't live my life only wishing I could have the life I deserve. I really need help..

What is the life you deserve?

Have you gotten into trouble and are now being restricted? Tasha wouldn't be this way for no reason, would she?

How is Tasha making you fail school? Does she not allow you the time to study? Is she making you stay up late and do chores? How does she want you to change? What is she asking of you?

the reason i want to move out is because my dad's girlfriend.... tasha is diving me crazy and i can't stand it anymore im falling school because of her and i can't do that like hell im only in grade 9 and i am 15 i can't live my life only wishing i could have the life i deserve. i really need help..

Ok, now you are giving us something to work with. The possibility of your being allowed to move out is basically a pipe dream so forget it. So what you need to do is try to cope with what you have.

The first thing is to deal with school. You need to talk to a counselor at school, try to see what you can do to help bring your grades up. They may also be able to help you with ways to cope with tasha. You also need to talk with your father. Explain to him that you find tasha's restrictions very stifling and its affecting your school work.

You may have a round robin cause and effect here. The restrictions are affecting your school work, which results in more restrictions. So if you get your grades back up, some of the restrictions may be lifted.

You also have to take a more realistic view of the world. On one hand you claim you are 15 going on 20, on the other you say "I'm only 15." The reality may be somewhere in between. You talk about the life I deserve, but that may not be a realistic outlook. People don't "deserve" any type of life, they EARN it. They earn it by hard work and doing the right thing. If you go through life thinking you are entitled to something, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

I also have to point out that some of your posts were removed (not by me) because they violated our rules. I only point this out to show that you do have an immature side and you NEED to understand that before you can get help. Insulting people trying to help you is not mature. And we are all trying to help you.

Talking things out with the people here may help you as well. We are good listeners and have a lot of experience that we can use to advise you. But you do need to lose the 'tude and be honest with us and yourself. In turn we promise to be honest with you.

Hay I am sorry for being an immature brat yesterday my step mom was saying that I'm going to fale school and started to yell at me 4 eating to slow, fast , and for not at all she's driving me crazy and I am scared because I think I'm going annarecsick I need help?

I'm faling school and I hate it but I mead it to my gole... Should I keep trying or drop out

Have you and Tasha ever connected in a good way? If so, what was going on?

Talk to your guidance counselor at school and also your dad. Maybe even schedule a family meeting with your dad and step mom to talk about some of this stuff.

How long has she been your step mom?

Is there some way we can help you with school and studying? What's the problem there?

hay i am sorry for being an immature brat yesterday

Now that was a mature thing to say.

If you really think you may be anorexic then you should ask your dad to take you to the doctor and talk to your doctor about what's going on with you.

As for your step mom, you need to get someone to intervene. She needs to be told that yelling at you, constantly berating you is not going to help you. You all need to work together to get to the root cause of your problems so you can fix them.

She's not my step mom she and my dad are not marred yet tell this summer (grrr) but yes and no she always is saying that I drive her crazy she don't know how to act when I walk though the door and she never said I was a good kid or anything I truy my best at everything I do but it seem's like I can't do anything right like I'm faling school

The school suck when you tyr to talk it anyone they always go to the parents side I hate being a kid is there anything eals you can think of

Have you thought about asking your dad or Tasha for extra help or maybe a tutor? It will show great levels of maturity on your part, and maybe they will see that you are trying to make an effort.

I have but know care do

What do you mean "know care do"?

i have but know care do

That makes no sense at all.

Can do sorry

Sweetie, not all of us understand text/chat speak. It would be helpful if you typed in complete words and sentences to help us out. Most of us are old enough to be your parents, we aren't up to all this new fangled language.

I wish you were my parent's and I said sorry I meant I can't because all the work my parents do I can't do anything

OK thank you of your answer

Does your school have after school programs for extra help? I know when I was in school, if I was failing a class my teachers often stayed late for extra help classes. I had to re take grade 10 math 3 times! Once I finally understood it, it became very easy for me. I was even able to do university chemistry via online calsses! Sometimes it just takes a different way of teaching/explaining for you to understand things. What classes are you failing?

I'll try that thank you for the idea. Soshel studies, math , langage arts and music

Music? Really? How come you are having troubles with music? Maybe we can help you with the classes. I was pretty good at social studies and English/L.A What country are you in?

Fredricton

Thank you

Canada

Music is difficalt because of all the note's I can't use the letters or numbers its confusing

Have you had earning problems all your life, all through school? If so, did anyone ever test you to find out what the problem is?

I used to libe in Fredericton. I probably went to the same school you are going to. DO NOT LIST the school online OK? Lol

Ok, let me see what I can find for understanding music.

I had a learnig disabilty and adhd but I'm off my medd's

Arrrrgggghhh! Why are you off your meds? (This might be the key to many of your school and Tasha problems!)

Yes! Do your teachers know that you have ADHD? They may need to edit how they explain things to you. And yes, why are you off the meds? Being back on the meds might help you concentrate on the subject at hand.

ITS NOT MY IDEA its my dr's thank you for caring though

You they know

I think you should ask your parents to make an appointment with your Doc, and explain what's happening at school.

Do you know why the doctor took you off meds?

You she would and I have never been in jail I don't want to go lol , I am a pritty good kid wonce you get to know me

I don't know and you I'll try to get back on them for you guys and for me too I need to pass school

What do you mean about jail? What would she do? I'm confused...

If you just explain to your doctor and teachers that you are having a hard time, I am sure they will understand and try to help you help yourself. I went to both of the schools in Fredericton, the larger one was a bit harder because I got swept under the rug with so many other kids there, but the new school on the North End is a fantastic school, with amazing teachers. I would have never have passed grade 10 math if it weren't for the teachers at that school!

Never mind its for an aothe comment and she would do anything to make me mad

Miss, we can give you advice, we can try to give you moral support. But we can't DO for you. You need to DO for yourself. This means making your father take you to the doctor, talking to the school nurse if you get sick at school. Trying to talk to a counselor or therapist.

I think you are a good kid who is getting overwhelmed by things going on. You are at a difficult time in life, not quite an adult but more than a child. Its not easy and there is nothing wrong with seeking help to cope. But we can only do so much. You need to force the issue with your father to get you the professional help you need.

Make new goals within school! You should continue, darling. I'm not far off your age, and I dropped out early in the year to move in with an (EX!)boyfriend. And now, I'm living with my mother, who I struggle to get along with, applying for a ridiculous amount of jobs, and not being asked in for interviews. I'm an intelligent woman, I just didn't go through with the qualifications to prove it! Please listen to me when I say don't quit!

X Dani

I woont and you can do anything if you put your mind to it I know that is true, and about the mom thing I'm the same way just with my dads girlfriend.

Sorry Misshelpfull, this was a response to your new question asking whether you should drop out of school. Yet again, I think the threads were merged. This is getting confusing now.

And I know how you feel about your dads girlfriend. I REALLY do. I had the same situation, except in my case, they broke up and she refused to leave our house. So she became a squatter. I started receiving death threats from her!

X Dani

My really mom did the same

Miss Helpful,

Firstly, welcome to this great site!

You are in a piquent situation, no doubt, but a bit of patience, conversation, communication and counselling will help, no doubt, but you also need to dare. I mean take courage.

But, one thing I will like to appreciate is that you are a COURAGEOUS, GREAT and INTELLIGENT girl. Everyone faces problems in life. You are not ALONE to face such difficulities, and it is also important to remember that the adversities bring gold to us.

I know and thake you

I meen thank you

Miss Helpful,

Do not lose heart. I hope everything will turn out for good. But, you must remember that by trying to involve yourself in other things or by indulging in games, fun and entertainment, you can sort of overcome your pain to some extent. I believe the big GOD is looking at you (a little helpless girl) facing such a difficult situation, and will surely come to your rescue. But, go to a counseller, for sure.

Good luck!

Forever lol

Miss Helpful,

What does "forever LOLZ" mean, dear?

If you (as it seems) ask if you can be happy forever, the answer is yeah.

"LOL" is - Laugh out loud, and the "Z" exaggerates it.

And Good luck misshelpfull. Keep us updated.

X Dani

For sour

You it dose but its hard to be happy now and if I were forever

Can people just message me please this is getting confusing thank you

Misshelpfull, we don't do private Messages to give out help. We like to keep it public.

I think what is confusing here is the threads are being merged, and there is no mod notes with the merges. Maybe if we could quote which response we are responding to, that might clear things up.

OK?

Your threads were originally merged, then I merged in the new one you started about school. Dani was the only one who replied before it was merged. This is because there is a lot of background in the original threads that will help members understand your situation and better help you. So please keep your responses to this thread.

You can quote from a specific post if you want to make it clear what you are responding to, or address a specific person. (i.e. @Scottgem... )

But we prefer that all responses be kept public.

All right

(Grrrrrrrrrr) I hate music class it's pritty bad when I have a better life on the web

What do you do in music class? Study composers or sing or play an instrument?

I took a look at this site here, and it seems pretty comprehensive. Have a look, if it doesn't help I'll try and find another site for you.

Introduction to Reading Music (http://datadragon.com/education/reading/)

Thank you so much and we play keybord something I suck at

Once you master the keyboard, you can play anything! I used to do the keyboard and the clarinet. Once I knew those two, I taught myself the flute and the sax.

But I know what you mean. Keyboard can be tricky at times.

Awsome I wish I had time to lear the geatar

Aye keyboard is difficult. I was lucky enough to have learned it from a young age, and was the only one in the class to be able to play with both hands.

Would have been different if it were the guitar or something though. I'm rubbish!

Lol know, I love guitar and I sing

It feels like all my teachers are out to get me grrrrr la

I love science

Miss Helpful,

I feel that involving yourself in fun and frolic, science or literature is really going to be a great escape and diversion for the time being and once time heals old wounds, you will have the courage, power, time, energy and freshness to think anew. I would also suggest you to go thru' science fiction, science facts, scientific realities (hard and soft) and literature on scientific discoveries and such, as it will surely help you gain much and lose what is undesirable. Good luck!

I need help in math

What should I get my boyfriend for his birthday?? I need help

Thank you

Is anyone online?? I really need some one to talk to

Miss Helpful,

Hey, I am here to chat with you. Come on with your queries.

Thanks

I need help desideing on what to get my boyfriend for his birthday??

Miss Helpful,

For birthday, you can present your boyfriend with anything, that he is passionate about. For example, if I am your boyfriend, I would like to get a book as a gift from you, and I would not only love it, even as its cost is less, but only as it is a book, but also will keep it in my mind, and the book in my shelf all my life. It is a fact.

About your query regarding help in Mathematics, I would suggest you to take it as a challenge. First solve the simple sums, and go towards difficult one, which you can somewhat solve, but not entirely. Then look at the exercise, and you will be able to find a challenge for you. Just tell me, what is your level. Can you solve the sums like - if 3 men make a wall in 10 days, and 7 women make it in 11 days, how many days will they take to construct it if there is one boy and one girl.

21 days are used and I have know clue

Miss Helpful,

Tell me if my suggestion about gift to your boyfriend is of any help. There is one other suggestion. Please tell me - what is your hair length, hairstyle now?
About the mathematical sum, tell me if you can solve this sums-
1. A mango costs 13 rupees, what is the cost of 4 mangoes?
2. If a frog jumps out of a well, which has 10 steps, and he jumps 3 steps in one jump, but slides 2 steps. How many jumps will he use to reach out?
Answer both questions separately.

Did you find my answers HELPFUL. This one and the ealier one!

Btw's this is miss helpfull's friend I just want to know ::::: what shold I do if I like this person but I don't know how to tell them what shold I say or do XoXo KB

btw's this is miss helpfull's friend i just want to know ::::: what shold i do if i like this person but i don't know how to tell them what shold i say or do XoXo KB

Please create your own ID (it's free) and start your own thread. Otherwise it will become too confusing as to what question is being answered.

Just answer her please

just answer her please

We want to help her, but if we do so like this its going to interfere with us helping you. Its not the right way to use this site. It is a simple matter for her to create her own ID and ask her own question.

OK thanks