beautifulworld
Dec 12, 2011, 03:38 AM
So I met this guy who is 30 on Facebook in July. He asked me out a couple weeks ago. We met for coffee.. Then walked around downtown and looked at christmas lights.. Next night.. I went out for ice cream with him and his daughter.. Next night watched a movie at his place.. A couple nights later we made a ginger bread house and he finally kissed me. Nothing more than a nice makeout session.
A few nights later I joined him for christmas shopping. Said he would call me the next day.. (which would've been friday) he didn't. I didn't bother to get a hold of him since he did say that he would be getting a hold of me.
So I finally hear from him today. (sunday) a text that reads..
"hey sorry for being so distant. What are you up to?"
I respond with
"just watching football. Everything alright"
He says
"fun. Yes everything is fine. I really like hanging and talking to you. I was just worried about moving too fast..."
I replied
"yeah. Thanks for being honest"
He says
"i do like hanging with you. I want to more. I just have to slow it down because I told myself I wouldn't get into another relationship for a bit. Can you still hang and be my friend?"
I said
"of course.. I definitely understand and appreciate your honesty. You said you want to slow things down because you aren't ready for a relationship right now.. Does that mean you see us having potential in the future or do you just see us having friendship?"
He said
"i don't know honestly. I'm just doing everything one day at a time. I just got out of a long bad breakup though and I just need time to focus on myself and my daughter.. I don't want to lead you on or get your hopes up.. So I would say we focus on the friendship thing."
I said
"yeah I definitely understand. No need to rush. I'm happy with the way things are going."
He replied with a smiley.
I'm just having a hard time understanding if he strictly only wants to be friends or if.. I play my cards right.. When he is ready I'll be the one for him..
I'm assuming that since he is 30 with a daughter he is done playing games and doesn't have time to mess around.. He has never been married and his last relationship ended in September and was a little over a year long.
What can I or do I do to show him that I care and that I want to have this relationship when he is ready? Or.. Should I just plan on moving on now?
Help! Ugh.
A few nights later I joined him for christmas shopping. Said he would call me the next day.. (which would've been friday) he didn't. I didn't bother to get a hold of him since he did say that he would be getting a hold of me.
So I finally hear from him today. (sunday) a text that reads..
"hey sorry for being so distant. What are you up to?"
I respond with
"just watching football. Everything alright"
He says
"fun. Yes everything is fine. I really like hanging and talking to you. I was just worried about moving too fast..."
I replied
"yeah. Thanks for being honest"
He says
"i do like hanging with you. I want to more. I just have to slow it down because I told myself I wouldn't get into another relationship for a bit. Can you still hang and be my friend?"
I said
"of course.. I definitely understand and appreciate your honesty. You said you want to slow things down because you aren't ready for a relationship right now.. Does that mean you see us having potential in the future or do you just see us having friendship?"
He said
"i don't know honestly. I'm just doing everything one day at a time. I just got out of a long bad breakup though and I just need time to focus on myself and my daughter.. I don't want to lead you on or get your hopes up.. So I would say we focus on the friendship thing."
I said
"yeah I definitely understand. No need to rush. I'm happy with the way things are going."
He replied with a smiley.
I'm just having a hard time understanding if he strictly only wants to be friends or if.. I play my cards right.. When he is ready I'll be the one for him..
I'm assuming that since he is 30 with a daughter he is done playing games and doesn't have time to mess around.. He has never been married and his last relationship ended in September and was a little over a year long.
What can I or do I do to show him that I care and that I want to have this relationship when he is ready? Or.. Should I just plan on moving on now?
Help! Ugh.